You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Compliance.I have heard some people ask the girl to get them something simple (like coffee or something) when they come over to see how she reacts.
Do you perhaps know of any other tests or variations of this?
You are direct and make her understand early on exactly what you expect. If she's non-compliant, she failed the test and is free to make some supplicating loser as miserable as she is.I have heard some people ask the girl to get them something simple (like coffee or something) when they come over to see how she reacts.
Do you perhaps know of any other tests or variations of this?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I had a girl drive me around our tiny, dingy alleyways we call roads here in her dad's long, ungainly station wagon, in heavy, chaotic traffic. She was so chilled out and nothing seemed to phase her. Gotta admit I was impressed.Be in the passenger seat while a woman is driving in rush hour traffic and also on the highway.
How she drives on the highway and also how she behaves in rush hour traffic will reveal more about her than you realize.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.