"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How do you tell if you have an Anxiety Disorder?
- Thread starter Brighty
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Anxiety is not the same as being mentally challenged, and an assh*ole on top of that.pua1989 said:ask luke skywalker.....on second thought, dont do that he doesnt realize it either
OP: Can you describe in detail, what you mean? Is there a time when you don't have such symptoms, like when going on vacation, changing locations and environment... etc.
It could be something in your diet, or something you're lacking. Could be a physical problem, could be something wrong with your adrenaline production and so on. There's so many causes for things. You need to find out what it is and eliminate the problem.
How do I think you can tell? If there mere thought of doing something, not just the doing, gives you a sense of fear and dread and doubt. And if you avoid doing things because you KNOW they will go badly.
This is severe anxiety and I have to fight it all the time.
Alle_Gory said:Anxiety is not the same as being mentally challenged, and an assh*ole on top of that.
OP: Can you describe in detail, what you mean? Is there a time when you don't have such symptoms, like when going on vacation, changing locations and environment... etc.
It could be something in your diet, or something you're lacking. Could be a physical problem, could be something wrong with your adrenaline production and so on. There's so many causes for things. You need to find out what it is and eliminate the problem.
For example, when I'm outside of school with my friends and when I'm in classes where I'm friends with everyone (6/8 classes) I feel comfortable and right at home. But when I'm in school walking in the hallways (well, I just graduated, so idk) I always felt like everyone was always watching me and as a result I just did things... differently. I dont know how to describe it, but like I would have these little awkward mannerisms, I'd lose my swagger, I'd accidently leave out words, I'd mumble, etc.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.