"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How do you tell if you have an Anxiety Disorder?
- Thread starter Brighty
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Anxiety is not the same as being mentally challenged, and an assh*ole on top of that.pua1989 said:ask luke skywalker.....on second thought, dont do that he doesnt realize it either
OP: Can you describe in detail, what you mean? Is there a time when you don't have such symptoms, like when going on vacation, changing locations and environment... etc.
It could be something in your diet, or something you're lacking. Could be a physical problem, could be something wrong with your adrenaline production and so on. There's so many causes for things. You need to find out what it is and eliminate the problem.
How do I think you can tell? If there mere thought of doing something, not just the doing, gives you a sense of fear and dread and doubt. And if you avoid doing things because you KNOW they will go badly.
This is severe anxiety and I have to fight it all the time.
Alle_Gory said:Anxiety is not the same as being mentally challenged, and an assh*ole on top of that.
OP: Can you describe in detail, what you mean? Is there a time when you don't have such symptoms, like when going on vacation, changing locations and environment... etc.
It could be something in your diet, or something you're lacking. Could be a physical problem, could be something wrong with your adrenaline production and so on. There's so many causes for things. You need to find out what it is and eliminate the problem.
For example, when I'm outside of school with my friends and when I'm in classes where I'm friends with everyone (6/8 classes) I feel comfortable and right at home. But when I'm in school walking in the hallways (well, I just graduated, so idk) I always felt like everyone was always watching me and as a result I just did things... differently. I dont know how to describe it, but like I would have these little awkward mannerisms, I'd lose my swagger, I'd accidently leave out words, I'd mumble, etc.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.