"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you tell a woman on a date that you hate your job?

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how do you tell a woman on a date that you hate your job?


She will ask about your career during conversation. is there a way to avoid discussing details about the job.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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SharinganUser said:
Just tell her you looking for a change or something. Tell her what you would like to do and keep the focus on that.
this. You have to make it a positive. In fact, you have to do more than that. You have to make a decision about your job and start living that decision. Even if it takes you years to finally live it, you will always have something that you are working towards and like Earl Nightingale said on The Strangest Secret in the World, a success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.

You have to find a success in this, a goal to work towards and then when you talk to a woman, you will speak with ambition and confidence for where you are going, not where you are at.
 

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It's not DJ to talk about your career. You are supposed to talk about travel, astrology, and who lies more, men or women? lol jk
 

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If she asks you about your career or your financial status, that's a sign she is looking for someone well off to leach upon and that she is looking for a husband.

If you are ok with that, you can answer her questions, but personally I would call her a gold digger and just leave.
Because she wants to determine if you're self-sufficent, independent, and secure, she's a gold-digger?

To the OP, any answer will suffice just as long as you don't complain or come off as whiney about your job. No one, especially females, wants to hear a grown man moan and b**ch.
 

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I avoid discussing anything negative on both sides of the conversation. I don't want to hear about her negative stuff, and she doesn't need to hear about mine. Anything you say should be in a positive light about bettering yourself. Say you are looking for something more challenging, and somehow swing that into a sexual discussion.

Want to ***** about your job? Buy a 6 pack and have a guys night :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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picard said:
how do you tell a woman on a date that you hate your job?
You don´t tell it. It´s that easy. Never ever.

If you are pissed of because of your work, meet male friends, drink a beer with them and talk about it. But not in front of a woman.
 

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AmIAFC said:
Because she wants to determine if you're self-sufficent, independent, and secure, she's a gold-digger?
Do you believe the men in her past were attractive to her because of such qualities?

A date is supposed to be fun, not a job interview.
 

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It was always a red flag for me when the girl started bit$$ing about her job. I didn't want to hear it, primarily because I want employed/self-sufficient women and because bit$$ing turns me off. So, if I don't want to hear it from them, I sure as heck wouldn't subject them to my bit$$ing about my job (or anything else).
 

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Stone the Crows Picard,Not many people enjoy their Work,Its just a necessary Evil.
 
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