thelonewolflegend
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How do you guys usually tell her or try to imply?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do you tell a girl you want to get in relationship with her?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Harry Wilmington
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Simple: you don't. You take her out for 3 months and do the things you need to do to make her attracted to you, and by the 3rd month they're usually asking "So, what are we?" or "Where's this relationship going?" THAT'S when you know she's ready for a relationship - anything before that and you're jumping the gun. Until then, as long as she's continuing to accept dates, not flake, and show you the proper attention, you're GOOD.
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OP, this is good advice but it's not always three months. It can even be a month depending on how fast things progressed to sex. By the time you guys have sex at least once or a couple of times, they will start to ask for a relationship.Harry Wilmington said:
I_was_born_a_PIMP
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thelonewolflegend said:
You don't!! She must decide and say those words first!!
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Point is I feel like she doesn't care about me or like wouldn't matter lately and isn't feeling me as much it has been 3 months now and I want to move forward and I know it was routine for like a month and she was telling me that and now I want to tell her we are going to have some fun and I want her in relationship I don't wanna plan things unless in relationship. You know? So what do I do to get her to show proper attention then?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I_was_born_a_PIMP
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Re invent your self. The relationship is getting stale. You feel it and she feels it. Go buy some new outfits shirt pants and shoes. 2 new outfits. Start getting a hair cut often. When you meet with her start looking like a well put together man. You have to get her to chase you again. Stop calling her from now on the only way you speak to her is when she calls you. Take her to new places. Keep your house and car clean. You must become a new person. The old you is boring her and the relationship. Keeping a woman around is an art form. Whether you like it or not. You must keep changing and upgrading your self to keep a woman around. This is not a bad thing but a great thing because it KEEPS YOU FRESH!!thelonewolflegend said:
I think it depends on the vibe and interest level.
Sometimes I am so confident that I think she is worth the investment then i will go for it. If she's smoking, take her out the game. But smooth. Not all gushy gushy.
There comes a point when all the games filter out but you still need to protect your sh!t. AT least if you progress things you are creating your life, you move it forward, if she doesn't want to then sack her off and move on.
It's high risk, but I love the risk
Sometimes I am so confident that I think she is worth the investment then i will go for it. If she's smoking, take her out the game. But smooth. Not all gushy gushy.
There comes a point when all the games filter out but you still need to protect your sh!t. AT least if you progress things you are creating your life, you move it forward, if she doesn't want to then sack her off and move on.
It's high risk, but I love the risk