thelonewolflegend
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How do you guys usually tell her or try to imply?
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How do you tell a girl you want to get in relationship with her?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Simple: you don't. You take her out for 3 months and do the things you need to do to make her attracted to you, and by the 3rd month they're usually asking "So, what are we?" or "Where's this relationship going?" THAT'S when you know she's ready for a relationship - anything before that and you're jumping the gun. Until then, as long as she's continuing to accept dates, not flake, and show you the proper attention, you're GOOD.
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OP, this is good advice but it's not always three months. It can even be a month depending on how fast things progressed to sex. By the time you guys have sex at least once or a couple of times, they will start to ask for a relationship.Harry Wilmington said:
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thelonewolflegend said:
You don't!! She must decide and say those words first!!
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Point is I feel like she doesn't care about me or like wouldn't matter lately and isn't feeling me as much it has been 3 months now and I want to move forward and I know it was routine for like a month and she was telling me that and now I want to tell her we are going to have some fun and I want her in relationship I don't wanna plan things unless in relationship. You know? So what do I do to get her to show proper attention then?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Re invent your self. The relationship is getting stale. You feel it and she feels it. Go buy some new outfits shirt pants and shoes. 2 new outfits. Start getting a hair cut often. When you meet with her start looking like a well put together man. You have to get her to chase you again. Stop calling her from now on the only way you speak to her is when she calls you. Take her to new places. Keep your house and car clean. You must become a new person. The old you is boring her and the relationship. Keeping a woman around is an art form. Whether you like it or not. You must keep changing and upgrading your self to keep a woman around. This is not a bad thing but a great thing because it KEEPS YOU FRESH!!thelonewolflegend said:
I think it depends on the vibe and interest level.
Sometimes I am so confident that I think she is worth the investment then i will go for it. If she's smoking, take her out the game. But smooth. Not all gushy gushy.
There comes a point when all the games filter out but you still need to protect your sh!t. AT least if you progress things you are creating your life, you move it forward, if she doesn't want to then sack her off and move on.
It's high risk, but I love the risk
Sometimes I am so confident that I think she is worth the investment then i will go for it. If she's smoking, take her out the game. But smooth. Not all gushy gushy.
There comes a point when all the games filter out but you still need to protect your sh!t. AT least if you progress things you are creating your life, you move it forward, if she doesn't want to then sack her off and move on.
It's high risk, but I love the risk