You ask the eternal question.
That's great. I don't have a one-fits-all-situations solution, so I can only give you some ideas:
It's about balance.
And about the realization that your (healthy and authentic) boundaries actually help for the opening process, on behalf on yourself and on the others. It's easier do deal with. Same with beeing open, just for the uber-alphas.
And about the realization that it is ok to react unperfectly, overreact, for instance (within some reason), as long as authentic.
And about tolerance: My martial arts teacher, for instance, is way better than me and the others. And sometimes he crosses boundarris because of temporarily trouble or whatever. That's human. Apart from this rare thing he is a reat person and teacher. If the basic relationship is good that's fine, the other will know it himself.
And about knowing that other interesting people see what's going on and may appreciate your coolness and un-fazed-ness (within reason, again).
You wrote you kept it to yourself. Don't, if it's a strong or permanent nuisance. It is more difficult to deal with, however, if it's a low level stuff they are trying.
A propos "Tryin'": Maybe they don't even know about what they are doing. Talk to them alone, so they don't have to play theatre for the audience.
And (I don't think you need to be tild that, just to include the basics): You cannot always be the only one bad-ass uber-alpha in the room. It's more than enouh to be able to do that if really necessary. Apart from that, beeing an alpha is the way. It's ok to let the "control" wander around, it will come back to you if you're open to it, and you can take it if you need to, I hope.
To go more practical: Humor is best. Laugh with them and the audience.
