Have you dropped fine game on a girl and you feel that ur about to close and then....The girl asks you "wats my name?" and you have no idea what it is. How do you respond to that question, do you you just say im sorry i forgot???
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do you respond to this question?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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This is precisely why canned lines and trickery does not work. One of the few things any guy should remember is her fvcking name.
If you happen to forget her name though, the actress/celebrity bit works.
If you happen to forget her name though, the actress/celebrity bit works.
**** i hate when that happens.. i got such a bad memory for names. like its not even funny, i dont even know half the kids name in my class.. i always call girls the wrong name, its funny sh1t at the same time!
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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da_hunter said:
I like that responce.
at one time i was talking to 11 girls, actively dating 4. Im decent with names, but you get to know them on dates and stuff, try keeping all that info straight. Asking the same questions on 2 different dates because you forgot who you asked them to. Getting details confused between 2 chicks. Its messed up. I had to let a few of them go, because i was messing up stuff with the girls that were most interested. Id be like "yeah, you went to college for nursing right?",
She replies "NO, I went for business". OOps. Ive done this so much. Im going to get a notebook to take notes at the end of the date. Probably a good idea.
She replies "NO, I went for business". OOps. Ive done this so much. Im going to get a notebook to take notes at the end of the date. Probably a good idea.
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"One of the few things any guy should remember is her fvching name."KarmaSutra said:
you couldn't have put that better man.
also, if by some twist of fate i get a chick naked in my bed that i didn't pay to be there without ever getting her name i'm glad somebody brought up the celebrity bit...you could pull that off if you did it right i think
An idea you can try...
Her: Whats my name?
You: Hey! Thats my line... *grin* ... And its meant for later, no need to rush *innocent smile*
Her: hehehe what?
You: *quoting yourself / the situation* "Whaaaaaats my naaaame! Whaaaaaats my naaaame! Whoooos your daaaddyyy?!" ...
Her: *giggle*
You: (while she is giggling / reacting to your humor) Have you ever been with a guy that has said that to you in bed? *hehe* <--- Notice how you are changing the subject + taking her mind off of her name and introducing a more... exciting topic?
Then at a later stage try and pick up on her name... Maybe her friends, phone, etc.. And just hope she doesnt ask again before you figure out what her name is / remember her name. :nervous:
Just a tip on how to NOT forget a girls name: When she tells you her name try and USE it often. Also what is a very good technique is to relate her name to something in your head. ie: If I met a girl called Bianca and did not want to forget her name, then I must just relate her to a "Beautiful." Then just repeat it a few times in my head. "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" ...
When you all go to bed tonight, I bet you will still remember "Beautiful Bianca" just from reading it a few times. If you just make a little extra effort to remember her name, you should find that remembering names will now go from a "problem that you HAD" to an "advantage that you have over other guys that dont make the effort"
Change is a decision away.
Her: Whats my name?
You: Hey! Thats my line... *grin* ... And its meant for later, no need to rush
*innocent smile* Her: hehehe what?
You: *quoting yourself / the situation* "Whaaaaaats my naaaame! Whaaaaaats my naaaame! Whoooos your daaaddyyy?!"
... Her: *giggle*
You: (while she is giggling / reacting to your humor) Have you ever been with a guy that has said that to you in bed? *hehe* <--- Notice how you are changing the subject + taking her mind off of her name and introducing a more... exciting topic?
Then at a later stage try and pick up on her name... Maybe her friends, phone, etc.. And just hope she doesnt ask again before you figure out what her name is / remember her name. :nervous:
Just a tip on how to NOT forget a girls name: When she tells you her name try and USE it often. Also what is a very good technique is to relate her name to something in your head. ie: If I met a girl called Bianca and did not want to forget her name, then I must just relate her to a "Beautiful." Then just repeat it a few times in my head. "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" "Beautiful Bianca" ...
When you all go to bed tonight, I bet you will still remember "Beautiful Bianca" just from reading it a few times.
If you just make a little extra effort to remember her name, you should find that remembering names will now go from a "problem that you HAD" to an "advantage that you have over other guys that dont make the effort" Change is a decision away.
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
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