"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do YOU respond to an argumentive girl

Romjuan

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more specifically a girl that is trying to get you to argue/fight with her.

Do you not respond?
Put her in her place and argue back?
Change the subject?
Respond with a joke?

Id like to hear other strategies
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bmp2cpm

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The older I've gotten, the more I realize that a date or girlfriend causing a "fight" is often a Sh*t test.

Your compatibility with the girl is very much dependent on how you navigate the test. It's not about the argument or the list of issues. It's about your character and your level of commmirment to her and addressing her fears.

The fight is really about her fears. Address them and you win her.

Of course, easier said than done.
 

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Never argue back. You tell her to calm down and talk when she can act like an adult. If she doesn't listen, you walk away. She'll come back when her mood changes. Be the mountain. Arguments are just a test of your strength.
 

Who Dares Win

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I agree with them and show over theatric faces mocking the actual emotion that they are supposed to show.

"You're right Im beyond recover" while showing an over exaggerated stereotypical concerned face.

They usualy get it, if not I keep doing the same asking them if they can help me to heal.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Someone said here: ''we should teach people how to keep their LTR, or how to maintain one''

First rule: You never win an argument
2nd rule: Remember that first rule
3rd rule: If you alive to read this... it means you'll be good for life if you apply Rule 1 all the time.

Arguments start from her fear.... winning the argument will just make it worst for you... its the fear she has you need to address and reconfort her.... if its solvable (cause we all know here when the girl or you is set to end this LTR.... nothing will solve it)
 

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How a girl acts in the first few weeks is just a hint of what is in store later.

If you don't want this kind of crap, nip it early or next her. I'm too weary to put up with that BS. Too much early in life, fvck it now.

Say "I like to have fun, and in discussion, fun and interesting. If we disagree, be okay to disagree and accept each other's opinions."
 

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more specifically a girl that is trying to get you to argue/fight with her.

Do you not respond?
Put her in her place and argue back?
Change the subject?
Respond with a joke?

Id like to hear other strategies
If your looking to stop it and not put up with her behaviour the you calmly tell her when you
more specifically a girl that is trying to get you to argue/fight with her.

Do you not respond?
Put her in her place and argue back?
Change the subject?
Respond with a joke?

Id like to hear other strategies
Don't respond.

I don't believe in entertaing argumentive girls. It's a complete waste of time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My wife and i might get in a one serious spat a year but she HATES it when i go ghost. I've developed the ability over almost 10 years to completely 100% tune her out. She can be cursing me out and i'm sitting thinking about who has better side dishes kfc or popeyes.

you got to play the rope a dope with women like this. let them aruge themselves out. Eventually my wife will get tired of listening to herself talk, then i can tell when she throws on the really thick accent and raises her voice she's trying to make up then we just talk about something else and usually end up having sex.
 

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My wife and i might get in a one serious spat a year but she HATES it when i go ghost. I've developed the ability over almost 10 years to completely 100% tune her out. She can be cursing me out and i'm sitting thinking about who has better side dishes kfc or popeyes.
Agreed, in the past I've made the mistake of getting lured into arguments, and that accomplishes nothing. Better to keep your cool, stay above the fray, and give her space. That way she learns that arguing will only lose your attention.
 

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The older I've gotten, the more I realize that a date or girlfriend causing a "fight" is often a Sh*t test.

Your compatibility with the girl is very much dependent on how you navigate the test. It's not about the argument or the list of issues. It's about your character and your level of commmirment to her and addressing her fears.

The fight is really about her fears. Address them and you win her.

Of course, easier said than done.
This

I'll add, whatever the 'issue' is, there is a general fear underneath it. Thing is, if she's not insightful enough to figure out what the fear is, you're going to both have a difficult time working thru it. This is definitely about compatibility too. If you can both quell the disagreement successfully, this is a female you should consider for LTR.

I disagree that it is a sh1t test tho. While women do sh1t test, a lot of women arent insightful enough to know themselves, so what looks like a sh1t test is really just personal baggage surfacing
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This

I'll add, whatever the 'issue' is, there is a general fear underneath it. Thing is, if she's not insightful enough to figure out what the fear is, you're going to both have a difficult time working thru it. This is definitely about compatibility too. If you can both quell the disagreement successfully, this is a female you should consider for LTR.

I disagree that it is a sh1t test tho. While women do sh1t test, a lot of women arent insightful enough to know themselves, so what looks like a sh1t test is really just personal baggage surfacing
How a women directs her sh*t tests is dependent on her personal baggage. We all have issues.
 

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Some really good advice here.
 

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I never talk about the particular issue, I just address the negativity. I can't stand a person being negative in front of me, I just don't want anything to do with it. I am a happy person and I like to be around happy people.
 

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Don't argue with a woman. Even when you're right, you're wrong.

Dealing with them is just calmly agree, or just pull out your phone and play Candy Crush. Or hell, throw on your ipod. At work, just ignore them.

If you're in a relationship, go play your Xbox for a while. Find an old video game and try to speedrun it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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