Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by Dee-Zy
I got a few problems with some chicks that are interested in me - but I'm not in them. How do you guys handle it?
Once, I told her straight up and opened up completely about it. She denied she was interested, which was bull cuz she tried to kiss me numerous times and was somehow always ending up between my legs![]()
Anyways, these girls are nice half the time, but I am just NOT interested and I get really uncomfortable around them cuz I don't want to lead them on. They keep asking me out or 'suggest to go places'.
any suggestions?
It's like I can't even use them for social proofs cuz they cling too much. I can't get into conversations with other ppl.
This is why I am a fan of being blunt. If they are that persistant, it's worth it to be a little rude to get them off your back. Who cares what people think of you for saying it anyway... They were the ones who ignored the signs that you weren't interested in the first place.Originally posted by Kourt
"The crazy thing about that though, is that they reply stuff like:
But we could hang out and all, and in time you might feel different about me "
ahhhhhh yes! Thats happened to me before!!! Made me made cuz I didnt even want to hang out with her, much less date her. Ick.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.