"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you recover from a bad impressions

King Of Nowhere

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How do you guys recover from bad impressions? Sometimes people are drunk when they meet girls and rub them the wrong way, or they are not in the best of moods and a girl trys to talk to him (happened to me). I see her every day because we go to the same school ,and I was wondering if I can fix a bad impression. How do you guys do it? Stories would help too.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GameTime76

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Is this a girl you like or do you feel bad making a wrong impression to someone?

I'd say when you see her again just smile and say Hi and go about your business.
 

PapiChulo

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First impressions are extremely hard to fix. I ve not been able to do so 100% with chicks. You get only one life as in a video game, one poster on here suggests. It's true. I ve made jokes about hookers and milfs with one interested chick, who apparently worked at a bible camp. The other stuckup chick has gotten turned off by my funny/****y comment and put me on the assshole list. No matter how hard you try you won't undo it completely, even if were to befriend Mother Theresa would not have changed their opinions of me. Women are dumb, you just gotta roll with it and not give a f6ck of what some broad may think. If she can't see who you are, no way she is worth to see her. This is how well their feminine "intuition" functions. The only impressions I ve fixed were the ones where people thought I was kinda unusual or perhaps too eccentric, too crazy - they would love me after a certain time which took abnormal amounts of personality, boldness and openness.
 
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Mike32ct

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I made the "video game with one life" analogy :rock: . I stand by that. You usually can't fix a bad first impression.

One of the most important tools in this game is a "clean slate.". If you scr@wed up with one girl, it's generally better to meet a new one that doesn't know you. You then have a chance to put your best foot forward.
 

st_99

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If it's someone you will see fairly regularly then absolutely you can fix
a bad first impression. On the other hand, if you rarely see them well then, its tough.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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