"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do you re-initiate with a women you've nexted?

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The weather is getting nice around here and the school I go to has a pretty small campus. In passing I am seeing a lot of women who I previously nexted during past semesters, girls who I may have gotten coffee with or went to the school's gallery with etc. Girls who I nexted because of boyfriends or because they were playing games mostly. When I next a girl I go total NC.

Is there any smooth way to start flirting with them again? I really don't like texting and sometimes I may only have a second or two to say something.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HeadLightsOn

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This is an interesting post. Anyone have any ideas, Im curious to hear what people have to say...
 

VladPatton

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I agree with bradd. You don't. You say a polite "hi" when they are close enough and that is that. Don't let the illusion of time fool you into thinking they sparked interest in you all of a sudden. But hey, you CAN try if you really wanna convince yourself.
 

floydb25

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bradd80 said:
Generally you don't.. usually there's a reason you nexted them and that's because you weren't getting what you wanted from them or they were exhibiting bad behavior. When you go back, the same thing usually happens again, only this time around you've wasted even more time.

Otherwise, there's not much science to it. You just text them or call them like anyone else and ask them what they're up to. If they give you a sh*tty response, well then now you know why you nexted them to begin with.
Agreed. :up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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foreverAFC

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ive been experimenting a lot at work lately. im surrounded by all types of different attractive women all day long, ive come to realize, for the most part, you can act just as BPD and flakey as they do as long as you keep acting like its normal. you can ignore a girl one day and still talk to her the next day. you can re initiate pretty easily for some reason.
 

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I'd have to have met TEN times as many women to ever forget a date. Now a casual conversation, or calls or emails, yeah, I can see forgetting those, after a year or so, or a few months or if you have a dozen or more new gals per month. I've got a helluva memory, tho.
 
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