"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you re-initiate with a women you've nexted?

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The weather is getting nice around here and the school I go to has a pretty small campus. In passing I am seeing a lot of women who I previously nexted during past semesters, girls who I may have gotten coffee with or went to the school's gallery with etc. Girls who I nexted because of boyfriends or because they were playing games mostly. When I next a girl I go total NC.

Is there any smooth way to start flirting with them again? I really don't like texting and sometimes I may only have a second or two to say something.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HeadLightsOn

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This is an interesting post. Anyone have any ideas, Im curious to hear what people have to say...
 

VladPatton

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I agree with bradd. You don't. You say a polite "hi" when they are close enough and that is that. Don't let the illusion of time fool you into thinking they sparked interest in you all of a sudden. But hey, you CAN try if you really wanna convince yourself.
 

floydb25

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bradd80 said:
Generally you don't.. usually there's a reason you nexted them and that's because you weren't getting what you wanted from them or they were exhibiting bad behavior. When you go back, the same thing usually happens again, only this time around you've wasted even more time.

Otherwise, there's not much science to it. You just text them or call them like anyone else and ask them what they're up to. If they give you a sh*tty response, well then now you know why you nexted them to begin with.
Agreed. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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foreverAFC

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ive been experimenting a lot at work lately. im surrounded by all types of different attractive women all day long, ive come to realize, for the most part, you can act just as BPD and flakey as they do as long as you keep acting like its normal. you can ignore a girl one day and still talk to her the next day. you can re initiate pretty easily for some reason.
 

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I'd have to have met TEN times as many women to ever forget a date. Now a casual conversation, or calls or emails, yeah, I can see forgetting those, after a year or so, or a few months or if you have a dozen or more new gals per month. I've got a helluva memory, tho.
 
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