"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do you pursue without chasing?

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TheMonkeyKing said:
"ÈI must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
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MonkeyKing, can you tell me where you got this quote from?

TheMonkeyKing said:
The simple answer is to train your mind away from fear; fear of approach, fear of fcking up, fear of outcome, fear of rejection (either initially, or after 20 years of marriage), fear of her leaving.

The difference between pursuit and chase is intent and independence of outcome.

-With pursuit, you give the girl the option which she takes or leaves. It's cool and calm, in such a way that she is free and safe to reject without hurting your feel-feels. Pursuit is sporadic and nonchalant. Pursuit ends after a couple of back-to-back rejections. Pursuit states it's purpose (sexuality and romance) and doesn't waver from that. Pursuit arises from a place of desire and want and is indicated by genuine interest from the target.

-Chasing is incessant and bordering on insistent. There is a vibe of desperation and panic. She feels awkward from your approaching. Chase is metronomic and persistent in the face of continuous rejection. Chasing tries to bargain with the subject, often wavering or downright neglecting the purpose (sexuality and romance), agreeing, "Sure, of course we can just be friends". Chase arises from place of fear and need, indicated by projected interest on to the target.
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A lot of phenomenal posts in this thread.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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