Has anyone ever been in this situation where a girl is trying to overcome a really hard relationship and she has a lot of interest in you, but then you later realize that you were a reobound? This happened to me fairly recently and now she considers me her best guy friend. How do you recognize and overcome this type of relationship? Right now, I'm certain that I've already out of the running, but I was wondering what to do in the future
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How Do You Overcome the Rebound?
- Thread starter DaneB
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
Don't chase another man's table scraps. Next her as soon as she starts pulling this crap. Ex boyfriend or not, if this girl was even remotely interested in you then you'd be with her right now. If she had high IL in you she would have completely forgotten about her ex by now. Real men don't sit around and wait.
Wait...you're only a rebound if she ****s you because she's upset over her relationship. If she friends you because of her relationship, well, then you're not a rebound, you're just a friend. 
There are ways to get out of the friendzone (as long as you've not dated), but I'm no expert there, so you'll have to wait for someone else to answer.
There are ways to get out of the friendzone (as long as you've not dated), but I'm no expert there, so you'll have to wait for someone else to answer.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
Being the rebound guy, theres only one thing to do. Bang her senseless.
Don't try anything else.
If she wants a relationship give her time. Use that time to bang other women.
Don't try anything else.
If she wants a relationship give her time. Use that time to bang other women.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've had sex a few times taking advantage of the rebound factor :
girl : Ya, I just broke up with my bf ...
Me : Well, I know what you need... a REBOUND!! *points to self*
(some chicks get offended tho)
girl : Ya, I just broke up with my bf ...
Me : Well, I know what you need... a REBOUND!! *points to self*
(some chicks get offended tho)
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
Time will heal you, as it does with most things
There's nothing you really need to do in the future. If you ever get in a situation with a recovering girl, you will remember the hardship you felt from the previous girl, & know it's a no go area