I want to get big, but not huge like some bodybuilder. So do most people get to the size they want, and then do a lot of high reps just to keep that size? Or is it impossible for someone to get huge unless they take steroids?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you not get "too big"
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Brian20o2
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When you hit your ideal size you just cut down the food intake a little so you dont have an exess to bulk up with.
Warboss Alex
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lol.. I love how people think they'll accidentally get huge. even guys with superior genetics have to fight and claw their way to 250, 270, 300lbs.
in any case, drop a meal (eat around maintainance) and keep your training exactly the same - high reps are a great way to lose your muscle. you can still try to get stronger (the lower food intake may make this hard though) or just lift the same weight every time.
in any case, drop a meal (eat around maintainance) and keep your training exactly the same - high reps are a great way to lose your muscle. you can still try to get stronger (the lower food intake may make this hard though) or just lift the same weight every time.
Man, I am 5'8 and 150 lbs, so I'm not even close to being big. When I started out at 125, I had to eat a bit more than usual. At 135 that wasn't enough, so I had to eat a lot more than I wanted to. At 145 I had to eat a fùcking lot and fill myself with protein drinks and bars. At 155 that wasn't enough anymore, so I decided to mantain and cut a bit of bodyfat. 5'8 and 155, man. To be "big", I should be around 175-180 of lean muscles. Do you think this will accidentally happen overnight?!
reyalp
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it's odd to hear this from a guy.....i see women saying it all the time tho
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How on gods earth are you worried about suddenly becoming massive is beyond me.
To really get big you have to be extreamly dedicated to train in the correct way, then you need to do the same with your diet.
People who are that size train for well over 10 years in the proper fashion and have great genetic potential to boot.
To really get big you have to be extreamly dedicated to train in the correct way, then you need to do the same with your diet.
People who are that size train for well over 10 years in the proper fashion and have great genetic potential to boot.
Skilla_Staz
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You will not get to Ronnie Coleman status unless you're either...
A. A lab experiment gone wrong.
B. On steroids.
Chances are, you will have to spend years of working your ass off, day in, day out. You will have to get your diet in perfect shape, and sleep like a baby every day in order to get "too big"
This is a 'calculator' for your 'ideal' measurements. Chances are you won't look HUGE with these. I sure as hell know I wouldn't. I'm close to some of them, such as waist, neck, hip. However, I have a long ways to go to get to the rest
A. A lab experiment gone wrong.
B. On steroids.
Chances are, you will have to spend years of working your ass off, day in, day out. You will have to get your diet in perfect shape, and sleep like a baby every day in order to get "too big"
This is a 'calculator' for your 'ideal' measurements. Chances are you won't look HUGE with these. I sure as hell know I wouldn't. I'm close to some of them, such as waist, neck, hip. However, I have a long ways to go to get to the rest
Ojete
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Man, you said it. You will only get huge like a bodybuilder IF you TRAIN and EAT like one. It doesn't happen in a few months, it takes years of full dedication to them, so unless you are doing the same, you won't get like one of them overnight.
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Yea, for the most part the average person doesn't need to worry about getting "HUGE"..
if you feel you are getting too big just cut carbs a little bit or do a little more cardio..
ultimately, growing muscle is as simple as taking in more of the right kind of calories vs how many you burn and the type of workout you do..
think everyone pretty much hit it on the head.
if you feel you are getting too big just cut carbs a little bit or do a little more cardio..
ultimately, growing muscle is as simple as taking in more of the right kind of calories vs how many you burn and the type of workout you do..
think everyone pretty much hit it on the head.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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best post of the thread. A-Unit's a guy who knows how hard it is to put size on.. and you guys are worrying about putting on too much. lol. It's funny.A-Unit said:
afc_recovering
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Guys this is a serious issue and it must be addressed.
WARNING! Do NOT follow Diesel's guide for more than 2 weeks because one morning you will wake up weighing 250 pounds at 5% body fat and none of your t-shirts will fit. You really have to be careful that you don't put on too much muscle because it is incredibly easy to gain. Losing the muscle however is very different. Many people find it impossible to shed that unwanted muscle once they foolishly put it on in a few weeks. So be very careful.
WARNING! Do NOT follow Diesel's guide for more than 2 weeks because one morning you will wake up weighing 250 pounds at 5% body fat and none of your t-shirts will fit. You really have to be careful that you don't put on too much muscle because it is incredibly easy to gain. Losing the muscle however is very different. Many people find it impossible to shed that unwanted muscle once they foolishly put it on in a few weeks. So be very careful.
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hey, I went from just over 180 to just under 225 'suddenly'.. took only my whole first year of lifting. bang! just like that. 