"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do you not get "too big"

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I want to get big, but not huge like some bodybuilder. So do most people get to the size they want, and then do a lot of high reps just to keep that size? Or is it impossible for someone to get huge unless they take steroids?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warboss Alex

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lol.. I love how people think they'll accidentally get huge. even guys with superior genetics have to fight and claw their way to 250, 270, 300lbs.

in any case, drop a meal (eat around maintainance) and keep your training exactly the same - high reps are a great way to lose your muscle. you can still try to get stronger (the lower food intake may make this hard though) or just lift the same weight every time.
 

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Man, I am 5'8 and 150 lbs, so I'm not even close to being big. When I started out at 125, I had to eat a bit more than usual. At 135 that wasn't enough, so I had to eat a lot more than I wanted to. At 145 I had to eat a fùcking lot and fill myself with protein drinks and bars. At 155 that wasn't enough anymore, so I decided to mantain and cut a bit of bodyfat. 5'8 and 155, man. To be "big", I should be around 175-180 of lean muscles. Do you think this will accidentally happen overnight?!
 

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it's odd to hear this from a guy.....i see women saying it all the time tho
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MuayThai

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How on gods earth are you worried about suddenly becoming massive is beyond me.

To really get big you have to be extreamly dedicated to train in the correct way, then you need to do the same with your diet.
People who are that size train for well over 10 years in the proper fashion and have great genetic potential to boot.
 

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You will not get to Ronnie Coleman status unless you're either...
A. A lab experiment gone wrong.
B. On steroids.

Chances are, you will have to spend years of working your ass off, day in, day out. You will have to get your diet in perfect shape, and sleep like a baby every day in order to get "too big"

This is a 'calculator' for your 'ideal' measurements. Chances are you won't look HUGE with these. I sure as hell know I wouldn't. I'm close to some of them, such as waist, neck, hip. However, I have a long ways to go to get to the rest
 

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I want to get big, but not huge like some bodybuilder.
Man, you said it. You will only get huge like a bodybuilder IF you TRAIN and EAT like one. It doesn't happen in a few months, it takes years of full dedication to them, so unless you are doing the same, you won't get like one of them overnight.
 

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Yea, for the most part the average person doesn't need to worry about getting "HUGE"..

if you feel you are getting too big just cut carbs a little bit or do a little more cardio..

ultimately, growing muscle is as simple as taking in more of the right kind of calories vs how many you burn and the type of workout you do..

think everyone pretty much hit it on the head.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Let's cross that bridge when we get there...get to your ideal size, and then keep lifting.
 

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A-Unit said:
Let's cross that bridge when we get there...get to your ideal size, and then keep lifting.
best post of the thread. A-Unit's a guy who knows how hard it is to put size on.. and you guys are worrying about putting on too much. lol. It's funny.
 

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Guys this is a serious issue and it must be addressed.

WARNING! Do NOT follow Diesel's guide for more than 2 weeks because one morning you will wake up weighing 250 pounds at 5% body fat and none of your t-shirts will fit. You really have to be careful that you don't put on too much muscle because it is incredibly easy to gain. Losing the muscle however is very different. Many people find it impossible to shed that unwanted muscle once they foolishly put it on in a few weeks. So be very careful.
 

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hey, I went from just over 180 to just under 225 'suddenly'.. took only my whole first year of lifting. bang! just like that. :rolleyes:
 
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