"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How Do You Not Care

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How do you just wake up one morning and think "i dont give a **** what anyone thinks" Seriously how do you do it?, iv tried again and again but some how i fail to do it, i always end up wondering what people think of me
could someone please give me some advice on how to do this, it would be a real help, thanks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=149263

Also, realise this... what's the thing that you DO control? You! Your toughts are the ONLY thing that's completley your domain, which you have FULL control over.

You have to cleary see it like this: There are things that are NOT in your control, which are other peoples toughts. You have to CLREARLY see that. They are NOT in your control, only thing you DO control is YOU. Think about it!

Separate you from the others... You control yourself, not others.

This came to me after reading something that talked about personal boundaries. There is cool advice in this forum too I supose.

Remember that you suffer when you try to control the uncontrollable. you spend your time and energy on what you don't control, so why not focus on what you do control?

See ya yo! Hope you ALL do well in HS! :D Once I realised this, I've been MUCH MUCH better. :D A huge weight out of my shoulders if you ask me. Saves a lot of energy and makes you feel more complete, know what I'm saying? Focus in yourself!

"How do Istop worrying about what others think?
By starting to think what you care about yourself!"

Pffh, cliché I know! :yawn: :D
 
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"I don't know the key to success, but I know the key to failure is trying to please everyone" - Bill Cosby
 
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You get so desperate to change your life that you value your own happiness over the opinions of others. That's how you don't give a sh1t.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you aren't there yet, unless you somehow get a realization you have to hit a low. And you should hit it with anger and drive, not depression or sadness. Either where you don't have the effort/time to spare for thinking like that because you've got much bigger problems, or you just stop caring what most people think because you're going through or feel like you're going through serious ****, and you're gonna keep going. You'll eventually realize it doesn't matter.

There are of course degrees of hitting lows, I think that the lower you get the more the I don't give a **** attitude hits you. Really want it that bad, go broke and live on the street.

For the record though, I still have a lot of trouble not caring at times.
 
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intrextrovert said:
If you aren't there yet, unless you somehow get a realization you have to hit a low. And you should hit it with anger and drive, not depression or sadness. Either where you don't have the effort/time to spare for thinking like that because you've got much bigger problems, or you just stop caring what most people think because you're going through or feel like you're going through serious ****, and you're gonna keep going. You'll eventually realize it doesn't matter.

There are of course degrees of hitting lows, I think that the lower you get the more the I don't give a **** attitude hits you. Really want it that bad, go broke and live on the street.

For the record though, I still have a lot of trouble not caring at times.
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Yeah, it takes time. I still have some trouble, but not as much as I used to have.
 
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Now this **** is hard. It took me a while to get over this. One thing that I learned is if you build on your success(sepping outside of your comfort zone), things are a lot more easier.

Lets say you came face to face with death. After you are finished with the experience, you will most likely feel the emotion of "success" (Whoa man... I can't believe I just did **** ****... I can take on the world). That this experience gives you this emotion will show you that you would not need any approval from anyone, and it will teach you to not give a ****. Which will then give you the confidence to do other things in life.

I don't think you should go and fight a tiger to challenge your comfort zone, but that you do other things that will make you more comfortable with who you are.

To sum it up:
Step outside of your comfort zone, because great things will come.
 
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Comes down to self-esteem. Work on that rather than trying to look for ways to stop caring. Once you actually like yourself you wont care so much about what other people think.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Man, you just have to wake up one day and NOT CARE at all, don't care what parents think don't care what your best friend think don't care about anything but YOU, YOURSELF and I.

it's something you kind have to figure out yourself. one thing that help me NOT CARE, was the saying that "people's Opinion of you always change" You can be seen as a Jerk one day and a Jock another, you can be a nerd one day or you can just be the smart guy in class the other.
 
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It's not about waking up one day and all of a sudden you just don't give a sh1t about what anyone says anymore. It doesn't take overnight for a mindset to change dramatically. People think that mindset can easily be altered but that is just totally wrong, like how when you start working out for the first time, you're not going to get buff in just one day.

You just have to keep not caring and even if deep down inside you do care, you just have to try your best to not care. Then eventually if you repeat this pattern, then it is going to stick onto you and you really aren't going to care anymore. It is like developing a habit.
 
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Try this:

Every day go to the mirror, look yourself and say

"I love myself"
"I'm the coolest motherfcker I know"
"I don't give a fck what anyone thinks of me"

10 times each. Do this for 30 days and you will care a lot less at the end. It worked for me.
 
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