"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How Do You Not Care

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How do you just wake up one morning and think "i dont give a **** what anyone thinks" Seriously how do you do it?, iv tried again and again but some how i fail to do it, i always end up wondering what people think of me
could someone please give me some advice on how to do this, it would be a real help, thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=149263

Also, realise this... what's the thing that you DO control? You! Your toughts are the ONLY thing that's completley your domain, which you have FULL control over.

You have to cleary see it like this: There are things that are NOT in your control, which are other peoples toughts. You have to CLREARLY see that. They are NOT in your control, only thing you DO control is YOU. Think about it!

Separate you from the others... You control yourself, not others.

This came to me after reading something that talked about personal boundaries. There is cool advice in this forum too I supose.

Remember that you suffer when you try to control the uncontrollable. you spend your time and energy on what you don't control, so why not focus on what you do control?

See ya yo! Hope you ALL do well in HS! :D Once I realised this, I've been MUCH MUCH better. :D A huge weight out of my shoulders if you ask me. Saves a lot of energy and makes you feel more complete, know what I'm saying? Focus in yourself!

"How do Istop worrying about what others think?
By starting to think what you care about yourself!"

Pffh, cliché I know! :yawn: :D
 
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"I don't know the key to success, but I know the key to failure is trying to please everyone" - Bill Cosby
 
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You get so desperate to change your life that you value your own happiness over the opinions of others. That's how you don't give a sh1t.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If you aren't there yet, unless you somehow get a realization you have to hit a low. And you should hit it with anger and drive, not depression or sadness. Either where you don't have the effort/time to spare for thinking like that because you've got much bigger problems, or you just stop caring what most people think because you're going through or feel like you're going through serious ****, and you're gonna keep going. You'll eventually realize it doesn't matter.

There are of course degrees of hitting lows, I think that the lower you get the more the I don't give a **** attitude hits you. Really want it that bad, go broke and live on the street.

For the record though, I still have a lot of trouble not caring at times.
 
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intrextrovert said:
If you aren't there yet, unless you somehow get a realization you have to hit a low. And you should hit it with anger and drive, not depression or sadness. Either where you don't have the effort/time to spare for thinking like that because you've got much bigger problems, or you just stop caring what most people think because you're going through or feel like you're going through serious ****, and you're gonna keep going. You'll eventually realize it doesn't matter.

There are of course degrees of hitting lows, I think that the lower you get the more the I don't give a **** attitude hits you. Really want it that bad, go broke and live on the street.

For the record though, I still have a lot of trouble not caring at times.
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Yeah, it takes time. I still have some trouble, but not as much as I used to have.
 
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Now this **** is hard. It took me a while to get over this. One thing that I learned is if you build on your success(sepping outside of your comfort zone), things are a lot more easier.

Lets say you came face to face with death. After you are finished with the experience, you will most likely feel the emotion of "success" (Whoa man... I can't believe I just did **** ****... I can take on the world). That this experience gives you this emotion will show you that you would not need any approval from anyone, and it will teach you to not give a ****. Which will then give you the confidence to do other things in life.

I don't think you should go and fight a tiger to challenge your comfort zone, but that you do other things that will make you more comfortable with who you are.

To sum it up:
Step outside of your comfort zone, because great things will come.
 
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Comes down to self-esteem. Work on that rather than trying to look for ways to stop caring. Once you actually like yourself you wont care so much about what other people think.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Man, you just have to wake up one day and NOT CARE at all, don't care what parents think don't care what your best friend think don't care about anything but YOU, YOURSELF and I.

it's something you kind have to figure out yourself. one thing that help me NOT CARE, was the saying that "people's Opinion of you always change" You can be seen as a Jerk one day and a Jock another, you can be a nerd one day or you can just be the smart guy in class the other.
 
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It's not about waking up one day and all of a sudden you just don't give a sh1t about what anyone says anymore. It doesn't take overnight for a mindset to change dramatically. People think that mindset can easily be altered but that is just totally wrong, like how when you start working out for the first time, you're not going to get buff in just one day.

You just have to keep not caring and even if deep down inside you do care, you just have to try your best to not care. Then eventually if you repeat this pattern, then it is going to stick onto you and you really aren't going to care anymore. It is like developing a habit.
 
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Try this:

Every day go to the mirror, look yourself and say

"I love myself"
"I'm the coolest motherfcker I know"
"I don't give a fck what anyone thinks of me"

10 times each. Do this for 30 days and you will care a lot less at the end. It worked for me.
 
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