"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How Do You Not Care ?

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War Against Betaism said:
People act like changing your mindset and internal programming can be done over night. That couldn't be more wrong. Like a person's body who hasn't worked out before starts working out, they're still going to look pretty much the same the very next day. Changing the mindset is very much the same way, there seems to be this myth that people literally became DJ's overnight and the right advice needs to be given to cause a paradigm shift.
Excellent post!!

That's why I think it's very important to get to the ROOT of the problems... First you have to remove ALL of your negative toughts, and only then you can expect to start being more and more positive!

If you're full of negativity, you may say to yourself: Okay, I'll be positive today! But that's like dropping drops of positivity in a sea of negativity... You have to take all of your bad toughts out, and then you can start putting good toughts in.

A negative tought in a person that is very positive won't have much effect.
A positive tought in a person that's very negative won't have much effect.

I don't know if I explained this right, but if you have feedback, please send!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lil hooligan said:
How do you just wake up one morning and think "i dont give a **** what anyone thinks" Seriously how do you do it?



The reality is that they never really "dont care", instead they expend large amounts of energy suppressing the reactive behaviors normally exibited by a caring person. They put on a front to convince themselves and others that they are immune to human nature. This results in stress due to pent up emotional energy which eventually comes forth in a very dysfunctional "acting out" phase.

Beware of those who "cant care".. These are the broken, hopeless soles that walk among us and engage in destructive sociopathic anti social behavior.
 

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when you are VERY BUSY doing other things thats occupying your time, trust me, it will start to show that you won't care about other things. And it will show naturally
 

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Either get some real bad **** going down in your life (I have much bigger ****in problems, this girl doesn't mean ****) or get used to whatever you don't want to care about.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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