"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How Do You Not Care ?

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War Against Betaism said:
People act like changing your mindset and internal programming can be done over night. That couldn't be more wrong. Like a person's body who hasn't worked out before starts working out, they're still going to look pretty much the same the very next day. Changing the mindset is very much the same way, there seems to be this myth that people literally became DJ's overnight and the right advice needs to be given to cause a paradigm shift.
Excellent post!!

That's why I think it's very important to get to the ROOT of the problems... First you have to remove ALL of your negative toughts, and only then you can expect to start being more and more positive!

If you're full of negativity, you may say to yourself: Okay, I'll be positive today! But that's like dropping drops of positivity in a sea of negativity... You have to take all of your bad toughts out, and then you can start putting good toughts in.

A negative tought in a person that is very positive won't have much effect.
A positive tought in a person that's very negative won't have much effect.

I don't know if I explained this right, but if you have feedback, please send!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lil hooligan said:
How do you just wake up one morning and think "i dont give a **** what anyone thinks" Seriously how do you do it?



The reality is that they never really "dont care", instead they expend large amounts of energy suppressing the reactive behaviors normally exibited by a caring person. They put on a front to convince themselves and others that they are immune to human nature. This results in stress due to pent up emotional energy which eventually comes forth in a very dysfunctional "acting out" phase.

Beware of those who "cant care".. These are the broken, hopeless soles that walk among us and engage in destructive sociopathic anti social behavior.
 

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when you are VERY BUSY doing other things thats occupying your time, trust me, it will start to show that you won't care about other things. And it will show naturally
 

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Either get some real bad **** going down in your life (I have much bigger ****in problems, this girl doesn't mean ****) or get used to whatever you don't want to care about.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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