How do you motivate yourself to do the right thing?

[DJ Axton]

I'm beginning to hate myself.

Up until recently I was a major player. I went from one meaningless hook up to another, which in college* is not the best thing to do, as pretty much everyone knows eachother. Recently I decided to turn over a new leaf, and found myself a girl I really like, and am getting into a relationship with her. It's nice.

But I'm finding it hard to stick by that. Everywhere I go, every single girl comes on to me, some even fall in love with me like fairytale princesses. It's so annoying, because I'm trying to turn over a new leaf, but these girls aren't making it easy for me!

So, how do you do it? How do you motivate yourself into saying no and not kicking yourself for it the next day, no matter how much you know it was the right thing to do? How do you get over it when the fittest girl sighs like a 12-year old when you walk past, leering over you like Bella to Edward, and you know you cannot act on it?

All advice welcome. Thanks.

-DJ



*I'm from the UK, so that's High School to you.

 

[Captain]

You could just have multiple girlfriends.

Most men have the mindset that women are either one night stands, or exclusive girlfriends. You can mix and match. It's the only way to get close to being 100% satisfied.

 

[R1ch4rd]

Hi mate.

Yeah i know what you mean by wanting a meaningful, you may get a bit AFC what might loose some interest.
It's really down to whether you just want a long lasting. Then you would have to go with her. I know right now I want just fun, with multiple girls, because i'm living my life, but there may be times and when im in my late 20s to have a much more solid relationship.
Find out what you want the most and do that, the right thing is your thing. If that hurts your gf feelings i would simply say " i don't want to cheat on you, i don't no commiments and that's how i'm going to be happiest for now"

Sorry if im not much help, thought i try lol

 

[DJ Axton]

That's good advice mate. Thanks.

 

[R1ch4rd]

no problem i sent you a pm aswell. I'm from Uk wondered if you could help a fellow newbie don juan out a bit

 

[CaptainJ]

Who says you are doing the wrong thing? Listen to your body, it's obviously screaming out for you to hook up with as many girls as possible, which will make you happy. Don't tie yourself down to one girl, especially when you are so young. Leave the LTRs for when you get older. Just do casual dating with lots of different girls.