"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you manage girls you're not interested in anymore?

Dacarnix

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So I'm at my first year of University, I'm 17 turning 18 relatively soon.
About half a year ago I read the Book of Pook and began my journey, and must say what I've learned so far has been great. Anyways already I've been with a few different girls here, and first few I handled quite well I thought. But more recently there is this one girl who I thought I may of been interested in, so to make a long story short; Known her for about 1 month, made out with her a few times, almost had sex but I decided to stop as she was relatively drunk; Point is she is very into me and I've came to a decision I don't want her anymore. Yet she keeps messaging me etc etc. How would you handle it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Payaso

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Take longer and longer to reply to her messages or don't reply at all.
 

Dacarnix

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Sweet. That is what I've been doing currently. So no need for a direct 'I'm not interested' sort of thing? Or is this never the way? (Just curious)
 

devilkingx2

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the best way to deal with it is to directly say you're not longer interested

if you just stop talking to her suddenly/out of the blue it'd be unnecessarily cruel unless she did something to warrant cruelty(just imagine if a girl went ghost on you for no reason mysteriously) or didn't like you enough to care(not the case here).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dasein

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Why not throw her one? Just tell her you aren't into any kind of relationship beforehand, she may not be either. I only burn bridges on the bad/crazy ones. Keep the nice ones around, just be honest, never promise anything, and don't give her the BF vibe.
 
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