"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you manage girls you're not interested in anymore?

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Dacarnix

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So I'm at my first year of University, I'm 17 turning 18 relatively soon.
About half a year ago I read the Book of Pook and began my journey, and must say what I've learned so far has been great. Anyways already I've been with a few different girls here, and first few I handled quite well I thought. But more recently there is this one girl who I thought I may of been interested in, so to make a long story short; Known her for about 1 month, made out with her a few times, almost had sex but I decided to stop as she was relatively drunk; Point is she is very into me and I've came to a decision I don't want her anymore. Yet she keeps messaging me etc etc. How would you handle it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El Payaso

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Take longer and longer to reply to her messages or don't reply at all.
 
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Dacarnix

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Sweet. That is what I've been doing currently. So no need for a direct 'I'm not interested' sort of thing? Or is this never the way? (Just curious)
 
devilkingx2

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the best way to deal with it is to directly say you're not longer interested

if you just stop talking to her suddenly/out of the blue it'd be unnecessarily cruel unless she did something to warrant cruelty(just imagine if a girl went ghost on you for no reason mysteriously) or didn't like you enough to care(not the case here).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dasein

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Why not throw her one? Just tell her you aren't into any kind of relationship beforehand, she may not be either. I only burn bridges on the bad/crazy ones. Keep the nice ones around, just be honest, never promise anything, and don't give her the BF vibe.
 
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