"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do you make of this?

Canibus27

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Ok, the the history of this girls goes back to last year. We met in Spanish class, and we obviously had an attraction. She sat a seat up from me, and we talked alot. She knew I was ticklish, so she often grabbed my thighs and my sides. Sometimes she would move her hand is slow, and I would grab it, and we would like hold hands for like five seconds before we would mutually let go. Often she held my hand while she would be playing with my watch. But, we didn't get close till the end of the year, and the dumbass I am, I never asked for a phone number, or any communication. So, sadly I went the entire summer without talking or seeing her.

This year, we have a class together. We didn't really talk though because she was basically all the way in the back, and I was in the front, we had assigned seats. Well, the teacher just gave us new seats, and it just so happens she sits right next to me. So, we talked a little, nothing much. She really talked to this feminine guy, but I'm not to concerned. But, I was a little surprised to hear her talk about how she really likes this guy in her lunch. And that she was trying to get this other guy to come to her house on friday. That was kind of a confidence killer for me, since I was playing on flirting with her like crazy for the next couple days. Then, what catches me more off guard, I was doing my work, and she was talking to the feminine guy, and then out of no where, she asks for my phone number, so I give it to her, and she writes it on her hand. And at the end of class she started grabbed my sides to tickle me.

I am very confused right now, I'm nowhere near DJ status. What do you guys make of this, and what should my next move be? Hopefully, I'll have new updates.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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dont make anything out of it. just go for it. get her number now. and tickle her back and playfully give her back rubs and all that touching ****.
 

supajsilver2

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I guess your best bet at this point is to play this one as if the other guys don't exist...they aren't important if you go about it correctly...good luck and props on the #
 

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I think FGuy helped you out, when they were talking..and then she suddenly asked for your number....it's one of two things.

1. He's gay and using her to get to you, which in this case....you do what you will....but focus on...
2. She likes you, and opened YOU up first...so take the incentive and move!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Canibus27

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Well he is not gay, he has a girlfriend. I just referred to him as the feminine guy because he is one of those guys who would rather hang out with the ladies (in a non-sexual way) then hang out with guys.

Thanks for the advice, I am going to flirt like crazy, and she can't drive, and nobody in her grade can, and I'm getting my license next week so I'll show her it and be like we should hang out sometime I can drive now.
 
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