"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do YOU maintain eye contact
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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will it be ok to break eye contact from a girl to sub-communicate "Hmp, I am the catch and you are not worthy"? Or will breaking eye contact a weakness?
One thing I noticed from girls that I have no particular interest in is that if I look around while we are talking as opposed to me maintaining eye contact is that they will work harder to get my attention, they will send me tons of IOI, you know the hair thing, the touching of my arm, compliments etc.
Or wait, how bout this. Maybe you should break eye contact and then MAKE IT AGAIN! That will show her that you're mysterious in case she already knows the looking away trick...she would never expect it. So look away for .72 seconds and then look back.JohnnyStrabler said:Ok, what about this perspective (thinking outside the box here)
will it be ok to break eye contact from a girl to sub-communicate "Hmp, I am the catch and you are not worthy"? Or will breaking eye contact a weakness?
Come on, man. Stop overthinking it.
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Darth said:Or wait, how bout this. Maybe you should break eye contact and then MAKE IT AGAIN! That will show her that you're mysterious in case she already knows the looking away trick...she would never expect it. So look away for .72 seconds and then look back.
Come on, man. Stop overthinking it.
LMAO I was just saying, is looking away sub-communicating arrogance or weakness brah?
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think about it fellas, as I can recall nobles NEVER look at their servants in the eye, so would that also apply to women?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PapiChulo
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Ease said:What does that even mean? Respecting people and accepting people for what they are = eye contact?
Sounds like vague empty waffle to me.
Well that is just wrong. What on earth makes you say that? You look away from someone you distrust or are annoyed at?
You definitely stare them down and hold focus unless you are also intimidated. A salesman who you think is lying to you, you probably look even harder to detect it.
Eye contact is intimidation linked 99% of the time.
Only thing worst than vague empty waffle is false information.
You should look at it in context, e.i. cultural setting, business/private life, gender, etc.
It's %102 about intimidation when you are in jail. Between a woman and a men it is a whole other story. Does it mean that I should start intimidating women all over sudden?