"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

How do you like to get girls to go places with you?

dot

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2006
Messages
288
Reaction score
1
How do you like to do it? It really depends on the situation I think. You don't always wanna give your number out and you don't always wanna just say "i'm going here, come hang out with me." Because what if it's something you would only do with two people? then that whole idea just sounds stupid. "lets hang out" is almost like saying "wanna go out."

Also a lotta things has to do with how you say things, but situations dont always let you convey that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

dot

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2006
Messages
288
Reaction score
1
yeah a statement, then move on to another question, assuming a "yes", works good.
 

dot

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2006
Messages
288
Reaction score
1
^ yeah true everything is feeling, etc. what about over the internet? just say "**** it" and do whatever?

Calypzo said:
"I was planning to go to (location) this weekend. You can come if you want."

Works for me
Yeah but there are things you wouldn't do by yourself. ("i was gonna go walk in the park. come with me")
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Top