"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How do you learn to love yourself

Mr.Fantastic

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I am in a pit of self loathing and depression. I find myself pathetic, overly serious and have a tendency to take it out on friends and family. I am worried that I am becoming a fvcking prick.

I am going to make an appointment to see a councilor and have started going to the gym reguarly. In addition to this I am eating more healthy but I just can't shake this bad feeling I have about myself.

Anybody been through this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I felt like that till i looked at my past and seen how many girls actually wanted to be with me, aswell as other things i've done in my life.

You have to look in the mirror and say to yourself "NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE THINKS OF ME...I'M ****ING BRILLIANT IN EVERY SINGLE WAY!"

That does it for me lol

Demonic
 

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You learn to love yourself one day at a time. It's going to the gym regularly, and going out and doing things for you. You hang out with your buddies, do some shopping for new clothes, get a haircut and look good everyday of your life. This is how you love yourself. You're spending your energy on yourself versus on someone else.
And when this happens, it builds momentum into every facet of your life. People will take notice and they will be vacuumed by that.
Brian Tracey said, "One of the most useless human emotions is self-pity". Nothing could be more truer than that. Start living for you and start building a new you... one you can live with and one you can love each and every morning starting this day onward. This is how you love yourself.
 

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I been there man, but probably a little worst then you. I was hospitalized for clinical depression, I tried to kill myself, and I didn`t feel like living anymore. Take Danny advice that's how I turned my life around, take it one step at a time. Right now I am full of ambition, I have a plan to get rich, and I really really want to become rich.
 

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Here's some insane, unique advice that you've probably never heard before, but here it goes anyway:

The past is GONE.

All you have is RIGHT NOW.

If you feel like crap, it's by CHOICE (years of choosing to feel a certain way---even though it seems to be automatic, it started somewhere)

And here's a revelation I had a few days ago. Don't know if you're ready.

LIFE IS NOT HARD! What is hard, (or painful) is the constant dwelling, second guessing, wishing you had done this or that--anything that takes you out of the present moment and makes you think you have no power.

Once you know what you want, the steps to take become so obvious that to NOT take them, becomes uncomfortable.

It's like you know what you want, how you want to feel, yet your prior programming is running that old program and it seems like you can't change it. But you can.

Slow process. About 3 months ago I was L O W. It's been gradual, but I spent time here and have worked on my goals, my self-talk, all that stuff you already know. However long it takes is how long it takes, but you took the first step with this post. Now take the next one.

BTW--any self criticism that inner talk that says bad things about you, it has to stop ASAP. Just imagine you had some kid you were looking after and some prick came by and started shouting obscenities and name calling a the little kid-- you wouldn't stand for it. You're that kid so don't stand for it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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you know, reading this makes me feel better. which means, you need to find yourself some more fvcked up dudes, and then you will feel better, as you realize how good you have it compared to them.

So I suggest some kind of group therapy thing, like in Fight Club, where you can look around at all the sorry azz losers who don't even have the knowledge of the path they need to travel. this worked for Billy Joel, who at some point made some half-azz attempt to kill himself, and when he got to the mental ward, he realized who the real whackos were, and apparently was fine after that (being rich and famous probably didn't hurt)

also, don't overlook diet, nutrition, etc.
 

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OP I have the same problem as you.

what I have noticed is that I feel good through accomplishments. Even if the happiness that comes from it is short lived, it DOES work.

The above is hard to do, specially when you feel like **** everyday and don't feel like doing something productive...because after all what's the point?

I'm currently working on myself. You do too, for your own sake.
 

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Realize your worth. Your TRUE worth.
Realize that people around you are just like you. Sometimes sad, sometimes happy. With a lot of problems and issues , just like you.

You came here with a purpose.

Whether you realize this purpose and fulfill it is up to you. That is what you came here to do.
You probably arent even aware of your purpose right now. This is part of your Goal in life, to realign yourself to your HIGHER SELF and Discover what IS your Purpose here.

What IS your Mission?

What DO you have a Passion for in life?

What DOES make YOU Happy?

What DO you NEED in life to feel happiness?


What Do YOU want to GIVE BACK to the world?

Do you know your Values? Under difficult circumstances?
Do you know your Identity?
Will you stick to it , even in high pressure situations?
Do you have Integrity?





There are people who care for you.
Do you feel good behaving in a low character manner?

If it feels 'not right', why do you insist on doing it?
Arent you aware you are hurting yourself and another human being for your lack of values, and respect?
Do you NEED any more REASON to STOP THIS attitude an dbehavior>?

What more PROOF or MOTIVATION do you really NEED????




Perhaps you need to understand the VALUE of Self Disicipline.

Self Discipline is NOT a restraint", it is actually a method of FREEDOM.

Self Disicpline keeps you on the PAth to Enlightenment and Greatness.

Self Disicpline makes you be "the ROCK" in high pressure, you maintain your COMPOSURE and Masculine GRACE under ALL circumstances.



A man of high character and respect, feels a duty and obligation to reciprocate that affection, tenderness,and concern for them.

A man with self respect will find compassion for others. He sees that they care for him, and he sees the value in this. And understand the basic human ability to express comapssion and affection for another human being.

And eventually understanding that he does indeed have LOVE in his life, can then begin to express it to others.

There is NO LACK of Love in this life. Only LACK of cognizance of it in our lives...


What about your parents?

We learn about respect, self respect, duty, obligation, morals and values, and interaction in a mature way from our interactions with our Parents.

What about siblings?
we learn much about ourselves by observing them andhow they handle life.

Friends?

Girlfriends?

Do you not want to be a man of EXCELLENCE??

Dont you want to have HIGH CHARACTER?

Dont you want to know how to create and manage your Health, Wealth, and Well Being?
Dont you want to understand what it takes to become a Man , a refined man, a true Gentleman, one who is a Warrior in this Life?

Not afraid to face challenges, and does so with a reserve of emotional resources as well?


It is highly likely that you lash out at people because of the resentment you feel, The anger and bitterness you feel.

Your needs arent being met so you lash out at those around you..and sadly, at the closest ones to you.

This is cowardly.

To hurt those who care for you and are concerend for your welfare and well being, and are tied to you because of their decision to maintain their obligation to you is poor character and shows a lack of self respect.

You do know that NO ONE is OBLIGATED to be with you or take your sh*t and bad attitude, right?

Even your parents can decide if they want to leave you.

The obligation and duty that a person takes on to become close to you and be concerned for your welfare is a self decided one.
Yes, it is. It was their PERSONAL DECISION, not some magical OBLIGATION.


Parent, siblings, friends, girlfriends.

They CHOSE to be with you.
And youre going to treat them as lesser than you?

This is low character, poor judgement, and cowardly.



Part of being a Mature MASCULINE man , whom is decisive and in tune with his INNER POWER is the ability to act with his HIGHER SELF, and KNOWS HOW to SELF MANAGE his WELL BEING.

Part of being a Man is knowing HOW to manage your WELL BEING.
Burn that into your mind.
This means you RELEASE every one of their "responsibility" for making YOU happy.

Because they never had the responsibility in the first place.

In order to Love OneSELF one must make these deep realizations and integrate them into his beliefs and values.


IF you concentrate in achieveing your Mission.
Continue your daily Pursuit of High Character
Manage your Health, Wealth, and Well Being
Allow yourself to RECEIVE love, affection and even Guidance from others freely without judgement , demands, expectations, and in true appreciation for these gifts
RETURN this love and affection to others and use the deep realization of these values in order to maintain the disicipline to always act with your Higher self and demonstrate TRUE Masculine Grace..
then you will have a deeper appreciation for others and eventually yourself.
 

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Loving yourself starts with believing in yourself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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:up: Another excellent response by Interceptor!

bravo
 

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DonGorgon said:
Your parents love teaches you to love...
...and the lack thereof teaches you to loath.
 

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Gym & eating healthily are a great start. A fit & healthy body is the foundation for a positive mind. Negative emotions don't exist when you're buzzing with all that energy after a great workout.

I'd suggest two extra things:

- A creative outlet: take up a creative hobby that you can pour your emotions into - playing a musical instrument, dancing, painting, creative writing etc.

- Boxing or martial arts: best way to learn self-control for a man, especially to handle violent outbursts

I've been through what you're dealing with, and the above were exactly how I got myself over it. That bad feeling will be defeated. Trust yourself. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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