How do you last longer in bed?

[Joji]

Not sure if this is the section for this but nevertheless.

As the title States, how do you last longer in bed? Any training or practice or is it just good genes?

Thanks for replies.

 

[Masculinity]

-Wear condoms
-Take breaks
-Make a ring with you thumb and index fingers and press the area right under the head of your penis
-Get out of your head; don't worry about your performance
-Change positions when you're getting close to enjaculation

 

[The Duke]

Drink More Whiskey!

 

[Roober]

95% of fast ejaculations is.... wait for it... IN YOUR HEAD!

Does a fat woman make you hard? Does a woman with her boobs hanging on the floor make you hard? Does a woman with some unsightly imperfection make you hard? No, there are many reasons a guy can be become unaroused during a sexual session. Why? Because your arousal is controlled in your mind, and what you perceive with your senses.

The same thoughts and physiology are at work when you are aroused. If you are with a good-looking woman, especially one who you have built attraction for, it is almost like an instant hard on when you see her nekkid. The problem now is that guys focus too much on busting your nut, and not enough on the experience. Fix your mind, and your problem will fix itself...

Many other things to try...
-change positions
-stay deep as the most sensitive area of the penis just under the head will not be stimulated as much
-Rock your body, don't just go in and out. This is also much better for her stimulation.
-Think about aweful things, like roseanne barr naked, or some aweful picture. Put that image in your mind
-You can also focus on her things, "How many times can I get her to bust a nut before were done?" Aim for 4-6.

You can also train (I did this when I was younger and couldn't control myself)
1. Aim for maximum duration. Masturbate until just before climax. Then stop, let go, and wait until the sensation completely subsides. Then repeat that exact same process for 30 minutes. I believe Corey Wayne has a video on youtube talking about this method. It works really really well. Do this 2-3 times a week.
2. Practice multiple ejaculations. Masturbate until you bust a nut, then keep going, and going, and going. It takes willpower to keep going during the refractory phase. Women absolutely love this. When you bust a nut, watch your woman, it often makes her more horny if you are doing it right. So then you have this ability to keep going afterward? Holy crap, you will blow her mind!

Remember, a man ejaculates into a woman's body giving her everything through mind, body and soul. She has to earn it. She has to work for it. He doesn't give his gifts to any woman, only the right one(s). A man cums when he wants to ***, not when he can't control himself. That is child's play for the boys. Don't be a boy!

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Proper breathing techniques help, like other posts say stay out of your head. I blame porn those men don't last that long, the scenes are edited and cut to make the scenes look longer. There are some techniques to help you last longer like jelqing? I think thats what its called

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I heard that the average time is something like 5-6 minutes, though I imagine lots of different factors and techniques change that. I think porn, with all it's crazy editing and viagra abuse, has given most of us expectations of lasting 20 minutes straight when the reality is quite different.

 

[Macaframalama]

This is liable to catch alot of chit and don't let it get out of control, but jerk off. If you can do it without porn, then do it without porn, which you should be able to. If you have to, use still porn, mags, etc. There's something about internet porn and the frequency of being able to switch scenes/women quicker that fvcks with the wiring in your brain. As you are about to cvm, stop. Let your arousal work down and do it again, over and over. This worked for me years ago in my marriage and has worked for a few buddies that I mentioned it to. Like I said, DO NOT get addicted to porn! It's easy to do and will fvck your life up, so it's best to avoid porn all together and do it without, but this has given me staying power. You probably won't have to keep it up either. I didn't. Once I was trained, I was good to go. If you have a steady girlfriend, have her do it for you, while you do her. You can make her wait too and you can cvm at the same time or she can cvm several times to your one.

 

[FairShake]

I went from a two pump chump to half hour power (give or take 15 minutes) using two things:

1.) Jerk off about an hour before sex. Simple. Oldest trick in the book. Not only will it relax your PC muscle but it will relax your mind too which, as everyone else has put it, it is in your head.
2.) Kegels AND Reverse Kegels. Practice both of them but heavy on the reverse.

https://www.livestrong.com/article/28552-men-perform-kegels/
https://www.livestrong.com/article/67932-reverse-kegels/

 

[Dash Riprock]

Honestly for me the old stand by advice of "think about sports" works, lol. When I'd get close to cumming I'd envision myself as starting QB for the Chicago Bears playing in Soldier Field, etc. It bought me a few extra minutes every time. Someone wrote think of Rosanne Barr or someone gross, that works too but both sports and the Rosanne Barr technique also reduce the pleasure for you because you're not focused on the girl or her p*ussy. Condoms also help and there's some new lube on the market with lidocaine http://www.trojanbrands.com/en/condoms/TROJAN-Extended-Condoms-with-Climax-Control-Lubricant which is actually a mild numbing agent same as the dentist uses. There's also a technique where you pinch the lower part of the head of the penis which works for me. Change up positions too. Sometimes I'll screw for a while then go down on her, pull out and tease her, make her say please, say I have to make a phone call now haha, etc. Also, with age, the control has gotten much better.

Women are HUGE on foreplay so if you're good at getting her really horny and juiced up, you may not need to last all that long as she'll go quick. Shoot for 10 minutes total for starters.

I will admit I'm not a walking dildo and PA sometimes crops up with a new partner. Especially if I'm a bit unsure about her or if she seems the type that has slept with a ton of men. I do think watching too much porn can kill erections and bring on some PA so I'm cutting way back on it. Sometimes it can take 2-3 encounters with a chick then I'm good to go once I feel good with her. Just me. One unnamed b*itch female SS poster was talking a while back about how she dumps guys "unceremoniously" and fast for bad sex. Most chicks don't understand the pressure a guy feels to "pleasure" the woman especially early in a relationship. Women watch porn too and many expect all guys to get hard in 30 seconds, stay hard for 30 minutes, give her 6 orgasms, etc. Sex is important in any relationship but not the be-all-end-all. Most sex gets A LOT BETTER as you get to know and mostly respect your partner. Like I said, most guys aren't walking dildos.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I went from a two pump chump to half hour power (give or take 15 minutes) using two things:

1.) Jerk off about an hour before sex. Simple. Oldest trick in the book. Not only will it relax your PC muscle but it will relax your mind too which, as everyone else has put it, it is in your head.
2.) Kegels AND Reverse Kegels. Practice both of them but heavy on the reverse.

https://www.livestrong.com/article/28552-men-perform-kegels/
https://www.livestrong.com/article/67932-reverse-kegels/

Kegels thats what they were called

 

[The Duke]

I can last 2hours easily. Maybe I should put that on my Tinder profile?

In my younger years when I thought I was going to bust a nut early, I would think of fat old ladies or something unpleasant during sex.

 

[Billtx49]

In my younger years when I thought I was going to bust a nut early, I would think of fat old ladies or something unpleasant during sex.

Ditto. I think of multiple ice cubes if the physical aspect is proceeding faster than I want it to. Your internal mental processes can’t be denied during the sex act, or you’re only acting like a biologically horny animal.

 

[skinnyguy]

I got this stuff from Colombia that makes me last a long time. It’s like Cialis

 

[djthiago1]

I've tried it all, i tried kegels, masturbating, alcohol, working out before, you name it. Now what DID work, was simply upping sex frequency.

 

[Joji]

I went from a two pump chump to half hour power (give or take 15 minutes) using two things:

1.) Jerk off about an hour before sex. Simple. Oldest trick in the book. Not only will it relax your PC muscle but it will relax your mind too which, as everyone else has put it, it is in your head.
2.) Kegels AND Reverse Kegels. Practice both of them but heavy on the reverse.

https://www.livestrong.com/article/28552-men-perform-kegels/
https://www.livestrong.com/article/67932-reverse-kegels/

Does jerking off before sex really work? I've heard about this before.

 

[Joji]

I got this stuff from Colombia that makes me last a long time. It’s like Cialis

Lmao what's it called?

 

[user43770]

Keep banging the same chick for an extended period of time. Problem solved.

There are plenty of things that work. Jacking off before they come over; getting somewhat drunk before they come over; stop pumping when you know you're close and tell them you're tired - or just stop pumping and tell them how tight their pvssy is (usually a lie) and that you don't want to cvm yet.

 

[Fireballs]

Cialis

 

[lizardking82]

You do not have to last long. If you have banged her brain before her body, she will *** at your command. Foreplay, touch her until she cums, eat her well until she cums again. If you make her ***, then you can *** in 3 minutes and who cares? Wait half an hour, cuddle, play around, mess around, get hard again, **** again. Second time you will *** twice or three times as slow compared to the first time whether you want it or not. Two times should be enough for her *** about 3 or 4 times if you do things right.

Prolonged sex has its downsides, too. Me and my ex usually went at it the first time and sometimes I lasted 5 minutes, sometimes 10. Then we played around for about half an hour and we went at it again and many times, I went about 20 or 30 minutes the second time. In the end, her ***** was swollen and it kinda hurt.

Bottom line: stop worrying about your lap and track time. Enjoy, have fun, that is the best thing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Does jerking off before sex really work? I've heard about this before.

Just have her get you off somehow first, without using her vag. Then wait until you recover, and go at it then.