"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do you know when girls want you to approach, i get turned down all the time

DarkShade

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I'm probably about to go on some Zoloft to deal with other aspects of my life, I think Orly and rapidfire may benefit from a sort of antidepressant, check with your doctor.

Another might be a new hobby. Collect something (I collect shot glasses, something that's both useful and nice to look at, as opposed to something like stamps), sample some new music (not the standard garbage you hear on the radio, PM me for some tips) or just find something to occupy your time to stave away the urges you get when you sit at home and do nothing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tsmith2334

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DarkShade said:
I'm probably about to go on some Zoloft to deal with other aspects of my life, I think Orly and rapidfire may benefit from a sort of antidepressant, check with your doctor.
Be careful. I'm talking from personal experience. It's a quick fix at best. I can definitively say that the negatives ultimately far outweigh the positives.
 

DarkShade

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I'll follow my doctor's advice, I'm not into taking drugs to begin with, I don't like crutches. It's a last resort. I've got too much going for me not to try everything at my disposal at this time of my life.
 

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Drugs like those mentioned have the potential for side effects that I'd rather not deal with.

Besides, I'm not depressed. I like myself, who I am, my life, and where I'm headed - save for my circumstances with women.
 
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