My past relationships didn’t last because they said I’m uninteresting to be with. Most of my ex-girlfriends told me I am indeed boring and loving me is suffocating. I don’t understand why. Maybe because I’m really busy at work? But I make time for them always. I am sweet. I never failed to make them feel loved and wanted. I really don’t know what makes me a boring boyfriend. If choosing to have a private relationship is boring, then I guess I am. I’m not just fond of boasting my relationship over social media. If that is what they mean, then I am guilty.
We obviously can’t make a diagnosis bc we don’t know you.
What I’d recommend doing is asking a close friend or family member what might be boring about you. Tell them to be brutally honest.
My guess is that you’re needy and too available (“beta behaviors”). You’re focusing too much on the girl, rather than yourself. You might have Nice Guy syndrome, where you focus on their needs to the detriment of your own.
It’s important though that you don’t try to literally change who you are in a way that is inauthentic. Try to focus on the things in life that legitimately get you excited, independent of girls.
When you have these passions, and authentically express them, you will naturally become a more interesting person.
If you have a life that is fun and interesting, you can let the girl come along for the ride.
