"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do you initiate eye contact?

DamHE

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title says it all.. usually i cant initiate eye contact because they just dont look at me..

help?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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alansp

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Well, first of all if she doesn't look at you, it's because she doesn't see nothing diferent on you, nothing interesting. For her you are anyone, any other guy. She will not starts looking you sudently. You have to give her a reason.
You could, to start, talk (or say some comentary) to her and fix the look during and after the talk end. You have to change first your attitudes, she has to be pleasure and admiration on looking you. Try also, i don't know if you are on a school, for example a moment that you are the center attention of the class or the group, like when you are talking and the others are looking at you or i don't know when the teacher call you; then take advantage that everybody is looking at you and probably her, so look at her. Then she will starting look at you more times than before.
Remember smile (not much, this smile have to show that anyway in her look "touch" you) you could also look down and close the eyes when cut the look (observe the girls, they do this oft).
 

eminence

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you look at them...you keep looking at them, and if they don't look back they aren't interested and you move on....not complicated. just do it.
 

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Yeah Look at Them. If they look, keep looking. Hold your contact longer than them. If they smile/wave/signal go up and say "hi". if not, keep walking.
 

sinner

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I never ever have a problem with this... your probably not attractive enough. Work a bit on your looks, body and style.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Zerotwoonenine

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just keep looking, if they dont make eye contact cause they are looking somewhere else, go past and look for future oppertunities.
 
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