Growing up I had a lot of "friends" they were more like acquaintances, they were just kind of around to leech off oppurtunities. They never really added anything to the friendship. So I got rid of All of these people. I do have a few close-ish friends that hangout from time to time but they have their own group that they usually hangout with anyways. I always find myself reaching out to people and feel like I'm a burden. I don't want to be that person someone calls as a last resort. It's been hard trying to meet women because I don't have social proof. Also, my social media sucks, very few friends and followers. I don't have too many pictures, because if I did have pictures, they would just be selfies which makes me seem like I am a loner, which I am. I have to go out and approach women, and seem to strike out ALL the time. Although I don't feel completely bad for striking out because I at least put myself out there and risked rejection, but I can't help but feel hopeless that no matter what I do will be in vain. It seems like everyone around have girls flocking to them, no effort whatsoever. I know a guy at least had 5 girlfriends in his life and he never had to approach them, they actually asked him out. Sometimes I just get so down about this, I don't even feel like going out and end up zoning out in my room and watching my life past me by. Any advice is welcomed.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How do you improve your social life and have quality people in your life?
- Thread starter DongWong
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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I'm not an especially social person myself; my friends are relatively limited and almost all of them like to leech-off me whenever they can, which drives me to ignore them. It isn't easy wanting to better yourself. My friends are swimming in women, including one or two whom my friends effortlessly snapped-up after I asked them for advice. I have many "lonely" hobbies (home cinema, reading etc) which I've essentially all-but abandoned in my quest to improve my social game.
Are there many bars in your area? During the day if you aren't working, pop into a bar you haven't visited before, and chat with the bored bar staff during these off-hours when there aren't many customers. You could easily spend half an hour just chatting about various things. It's great to return with a date and know the staff.
Are there many bars in your area? During the day if you aren't working, pop into a bar you haven't visited before, and chat with the bored bar staff during these off-hours when there aren't many customers. You could easily spend half an hour just chatting about various things. It's great to return with a date and know the staff.