Growing up I had a lot of "friends" they were more like acquaintances, they were just kind of around to leech off oppurtunities. They never really added anything to the friendship. So I got rid of All of these people. I do have a few close-ish friends that hangout from time to time but they have their own group that they usually hangout with anyways. I always find myself reaching out to people and feel like I'm a burden. I don't want to be that person someone calls as a last resort. It's been hard trying to meet women because I don't have social proof. Also, my social media sucks, very few friends and followers. I don't have too many pictures, because if I did have pictures, they would just be selfies which makes me seem like I am a loner, which I am. I have to go out and approach women, and seem to strike out ALL the time. Although I don't feel completely bad for striking out because I at least put myself out there and risked rejection, but I can't help but feel hopeless that no matter what I do will be in vain. It seems like everyone around have girls flocking to them, no effort whatsoever. I know a guy at least had 5 girlfriends in his life and he never had to approach them, they actually asked him out. Sometimes I just get so down about this, I don't even feel like going out and end up zoning out in my room and watching my life past me by. Any advice is welcomed.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do you improve your social life and have quality people in your life?
- Thread starter DongWong
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I'm not an especially social person myself; my friends are relatively limited and almost all of them like to leech-off me whenever they can, which drives me to ignore them. It isn't easy wanting to better yourself. My friends are swimming in women, including one or two whom my friends effortlessly snapped-up after I asked them for advice. I have many "lonely" hobbies (home cinema, reading etc) which I've essentially all-but abandoned in my quest to improve my social game.
Are there many bars in your area? During the day if you aren't working, pop into a bar you haven't visited before, and chat with the bored bar staff during these off-hours when there aren't many customers. You could easily spend half an hour just chatting about various things. It's great to return with a date and know the staff.
Are there many bars in your area? During the day if you aren't working, pop into a bar you haven't visited before, and chat with the bored bar staff during these off-hours when there aren't many customers. You could easily spend half an hour just chatting about various things. It's great to return with a date and know the staff.