"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I was texting this girl that I just met around 8pm today and this was the convo we had:

Me: We should get some coffee tomorrow.

Her: How about tonight?

Me: Nah. Let's make it tomorrow evening instead.

Her: Okay..

Now, mind you, this was around 8pm. Who wants to meet up for coffee at 8pm spontaneously which is pretty late? I already knew her IL was very high a long time ago but this one cements it for me. With this knowledge, I want to bed her tomorrow. No waiting for any second or third dates. Any tips or ideas? Has anyone pulled this off on a coffee date? If so, how? Much appreciated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DarkDetective50 said:
I want to bed her tomorrow. No waiting for any second or third dates. Any tips or ideas? Has anyone pulled this off on a coffee date? If so, how? Much appreciated.
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Unless your going for the super alpha move of banging her in the coffee bathroom....your gonna have to get her back to your place. This is no different from any other date. Show up....be relaxed and confident. Give her a reason to come back to your place.

-Talk about a movie you have and how she has to see it
-Tell her about your pet
-DRAG HER CAVEMAN STYLE(just kidding)

It literally doesnt matter WHY she comes back....just so long as she does. Once shes there, its business as usual. Just go for it.
 
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TheException said:
Unless your going for the super alpha move of banging her in the coffee bathroom....your gonna have to get her back to your place. This is no different from any other date. Show up....be relaxed and confident. Give her a reason to come back to your place.

-Talk about a movie you have and how she has to see it
-Tell her about your pet
-DRAG HER CAVEMAN STYLE(just kidding)

It literally doesnt matter WHY she comes back....just so long as she does. Once shes there, its business as usual. Just go for it.
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Agreed.

OP, is she in AA? I'm willing to bet she is, If so, you're golden, those chicks love to bang. If not why don't you tell her to meet you for a drink instead? I've never met for coffee that late but I can see the benefit of the added energy boosts.....
 
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Yeah just come up with any random reason for her to come back to your place, escalate, profit.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
Agreed.

OP, is she in AA? I'm willing to bet she is, If so, you're golden, those chicks love to bang. If not why don't you tell her to meet you for a drink instead? I've never met for coffee that late but I can see the benefit of the added energy boost.....
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I don't know if AA would matter all that much here.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheException said:
Unless your going for the super alpha move of banging her in the coffee bathroom....your gonna have to get her back to your place. This is no different from any other date. Show up....be relaxed and confident. Give her a reason to come back to your place.

-Talk about a movie you have and how she has to see it
-Tell her about your pet
-DRAG HER CAVEMAN STYLE(just kidding)

It literally doesnt matter WHY she comes back....just so long as she does. Once shes there, its business as usual. Just go for it.
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Haha. I don't know about the bathroom. I was gonna take her back to her place since she's using a bus to meet up with me but she mentioned the dreaded roommate living in situation. So I'm now thinking of doing it in my car. I don't really like taking girls back to my house unless I've been seeing them for a while. I don't want a stalker ex anytime we break things up. Lol.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
Agreed.

OP, is she in AA? I'm willing to bet she is, If so, you're golden, those chicks love to bang. If not why don't you tell her to meet you for a drink instead? I've never met for coffee that late but I can see the benefit of the added energy boosts.....
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Hmmm...I don't know if she's in AA. I doubt it though because she said she doesn't like drinking. Either way, I'm escalating from the get go. We're meeting up today at 7pm so I'll update you guys with the outcome.
 
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I met up with her yesterday. Kissed her on the cheek and she smiled. We talked for a bit then walked around downtown, stopped somewhere and got something to eat. When I was dropping her off, I kissed her again but on the lip and she asked if I wanted to see her apartment. I said sure. She took off her coat and just sat on her bed staring at me in the living room so I moved to her bedroom. Next thing I know, we're making out and we actually ended up doing it. Thankfully, her roommate wasn't in.
 
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DarkDetective50 said:
I met up with her yesterday. Kissed her on the cheek and she smiled. We talked for a bit then walked around downtown, stopped somewhere and got something to eat. When I was dropping her off, I kissed her again but on the lip and she asked if I wanted to see her apartment. I said sure. She took off her coat and just sat on her bed staring at me in the living room so I moved to her bedroom. Next thing I know, we're making out and we actually ended up doing it. Thankfully, her roommate wasn't in.
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Perfect. She did her part by inviting you in and giving you the "stare." You did your part by taking the ball and running with it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You missed an opportunity.

I'm certain you could have nailed her that night.

This is how I would have played it.

Me: We should get some coffee tomorrow.

Her: How about tonight?

Me: Not a fan of coffee in the evening...keeps me up. Don't mind doing drinks though

Half a bottle of wine and she'd have been yours.

Take her back to the crib and bish bash bosh.
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She lives an hour away and I had just gotten back from work.
 
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