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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how do you handle rejection infront of girl

bluemanson

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Ok guys i have 2 girls that i wana ask out for next week during the week

now i know if i ask the 1 and she says no or whatever, then i can always phone the other

now my question is, what if i phone girl 1 and she says no, actually i plan on going to her house and asking her so, how do i handle the situation or say that does make me look like a wuss,

but when i get to the car il phone girl 2.

Any suggestions guys

Thanks
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dee-dub

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Well personally I would invite the girl to do something I already planned on doing, like going to a party or going to the mall to look at shirts or whatever, then just call them and ask if she would like to acompany you to a party or what not, that way she knows you are doing something with or without her. Rather than going up to her and saying "Hey we should go to a movie together"(She would assume that you going to the movie depends on her, therefor it puts her in control) You want ALL the control. I hope that sorta helps :\
 

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Thanks and Well i was planning on that but as i spoke to girl 1 she says she cant plan what she does in the evenings.

but i just wana know what do you say if she says no or not tonight or whatever reason she gives,
 

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"ok, cool. catch you later." if you're really into her, then try another time. if she rejects again, take the hint and leave it alone.

I don't know that this has to be hard dude.
I think you're making this more challenging than it needs to be.
 

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Ziniath hit it on the head. It's no big sweat, but you're making it become one. Sometimes girls just have plans and have things to do. Sometimes girls are spontanious that they really can't plan their night because they live life on unpredictability. It doesn't mean it's always a rejection.

Quit worrying if you're coming across as a wuss. That's the thought you are putting out, you are going to convey that insecurity. Every girl has the ability to give you an amazing experience. Yes even the flaky girls, so if these girls don't answer/flake/reject you atleast you'll learn how to become emotionally stronger by going through it.

Keep going ahead, meet more women and just enjoy the process of it all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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