How do you guys validate women?

[tesla8520]

We often hear that validation is highly rewarding for women, so I'm curious: how do you give genuine validation without coming across as an AFC, a people-pleaser, or an orbiter?

What separates the way attractive, confident men validate women from the way insecure or approval-seeking men do it?

I'd love to see some real examples. For instance:

• How would an attractive, confident man compliment or validate a woman?
• How would an insecure or needy man say the same thing?
• What makes one come across as attractive while the other feels like he's seeking approval?

I'm interested in understanding the difference in mindset and delivery, not just the words themselves.

 

[zekko]

What separates the way attractive, confident men validate women from the way insecure or approval-seeking men do it?

If you're attractive, it's confident. If you're not, it's creepy.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah, generally you can only compliment a woman who is already attracted to you.

Otherwise, she might be quite put off or even offended by it.

So I don’t think it’s too much about how. It’s about who.

But if you must have advice on how…

Give the compliment casually and drop it. Maybe change the subject right after. Don’t stare at her while saying the compliment like you are hoping for a smile or positive reaction.

Trying to “force” a woman to smile….they hate that.

 

[zekko]

Trying to “force” a woman to smile….they hate that.

If you want a woman to smile at you, smile at her.

 

[tesla8520]

As far as I'm concerned, women get turned on when I look at them and let my eyes run over their body parts.
I don't know why, but I think that's already a compliment.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I tend to avoid complimenting early on (especially a dating app) but if I do, it's usually a specific compliment on something that they probably aren't expecting like a remark on their outfits color coordination or something. Usually I pepper in compliments later on when they feel more genuine and impactful or as a reward for good behavior. Compliments lose all their impact when you overdo them.

However I do 100% believe that you can compliment woman right off the bat, this isnt' to say it'a a rule. I saw a video where a Chad went up to woman and said things like "why are you so pretty?" in a casual and flirty tone and they were very receptive to it. But this only works if you have swagger and looks. Women are complimented all day by simps so it becomes really boring for them and otherwise does not work unless she already finds you very attractive and charismatic.

The only time I will consistently avoid complimenting women approaches in bars and clubs.

 

[zekko]

However I do 100% believe that you can compliment woman right off the bat, this isnt' to say it'a a rule. I saw a video where a Chad went up to woman and said things like "why are you so pretty?" in a casual and flirty tone and they were very receptive to it. But this only works if you have swagger and looks. Women are complimented all day by simps so it becomes really boring for them and otherwise does not work unless she already finds you very attractive and charismatic.

I remember that video, his actual line was "Why so pretty?". He threw it out there with what seemed like zero thought and immediately moved on from it. He seemed to use it as a way to establish intent and throw her off balance a bit. Anyway, I think that you can compliment women if you are sincere and authentic about it, and it doesn't sound like a line. Which is almost the opposite of what the Chad was doing, although I think he was sincere - even though it was clearly a line.

The reason I don't compliment random women much is I always think they haven't done anything to deserve it. That's the manosphere view though, and just one example of how the manosphere has messed me up. A compliment should be given to make the other person feel good, without expectation, not necessarily because she "earned it".

 

[BadBoy89]

Validate a woman? By having sex with her.

This is not boarding school or the army where its "single file" and "lights out at 10 pm". Generally, if a man looks normal, he can compliment any woman.