How do you guys validate women?

[tesla8520]

We often hear that validation is highly rewarding for women, so I'm curious: how do you give genuine validation without coming across as an AFC, a people-pleaser, or an orbiter?

What separates the way attractive, confident men validate women from the way insecure or approval-seeking men do it?

I'd love to see some real examples. For instance:

• How would an attractive, confident man compliment or validate a woman?
• How would an insecure or needy man say the same thing?
• What makes one come across as attractive while the other feels like he's seeking approval?

I'm interested in understanding the difference in mindset and delivery, not just the words themselves.

 

[zekko]

What separates the way attractive, confident men validate women from the way insecure or approval-seeking men do it?

If you're attractive, it's confident. If you're not, it's creepy.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah, generally you can only compliment a woman who is already attracted to you.

Otherwise, she might be quite put off or even offended by it.

So I don’t think it’s too much about how. It’s about who.

But if you must have advice on how…

Give the compliment casually and drop it. Maybe change the subject right after. Don’t stare at her while saying the compliment like you are hoping for a smile or positive reaction.

Trying to “force” a woman to smile….they hate that.

 

[zekko]

Trying to “force” a woman to smile….they hate that.

If you want a woman to smile at you, smile at her.