"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do you guys spin plates?

garruk

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i've never been able to this well.

i can get girls relatively easily, and im almost always dating someone.

but i never really date girls i dont like or dont see a potential future with.

and when i do like a girl... i only want to hang out with that one girl. i stop bothering to date other girls and sometimes when i force myself to date other girls... i dont escalate because i dont have the desire to move forward wtih her.


is this something that you all face as well? or is it just me? I WANT to spin plates, i just find that I usually end up liking one girl more than another and stop talking to the other one/s.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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garruk said:
i've never been able to this well.

i can get girls relatively easily, and im almost always dating someone.

but i never really date girls i dont like or dont see a potential future with.

and when i do like a girl... i only want to hang out with that one girl. i stop bothering to date other girls and sometimes when i force myself to date other girls... i dont escalate because i dont have the desire to move forward wtih her.


is this something that you all face as well? or is it just me? I WANT to spin plates, i just find that I usually end up liking one girl more than another and stop talking to the other one/s.
I'm the same way. I'll spin 'em, fvck 'em, but if she's not something I'd want long-term, just a taste test, then I'll do whatever behind her back. If she's one I'd like for my future, then I'll still cheat behind her back in a heartbeat cause life's short, but I will certainly make more time for her, and narrow my focus to her...UNTIL she fvcks up, and they almost ALWAYS do. Then I start spinning again to find another who (I know will fvck up) I'd consider being with and/or not be embarrassed to bring around my friends/family/co-workers.
 
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