"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how do you guys spin plates?

garruk

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i've never been able to this well.

i can get girls relatively easily, and im almost always dating someone.

but i never really date girls i dont like or dont see a potential future with.

and when i do like a girl... i only want to hang out with that one girl. i stop bothering to date other girls and sometimes when i force myself to date other girls... i dont escalate because i dont have the desire to move forward wtih her.


is this something that you all face as well? or is it just me? I WANT to spin plates, i just find that I usually end up liking one girl more than another and stop talking to the other one/s.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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garruk said:
i've never been able to this well.

i can get girls relatively easily, and im almost always dating someone.

but i never really date girls i dont like or dont see a potential future with.

and when i do like a girl... i only want to hang out with that one girl. i stop bothering to date other girls and sometimes when i force myself to date other girls... i dont escalate because i dont have the desire to move forward wtih her.


is this something that you all face as well? or is it just me? I WANT to spin plates, i just find that I usually end up liking one girl more than another and stop talking to the other one/s.
I'm the same way. I'll spin 'em, fvck 'em, but if she's not something I'd want long-term, just a taste test, then I'll do whatever behind her back. If she's one I'd like for my future, then I'll still cheat behind her back in a heartbeat cause life's short, but I will certainly make more time for her, and narrow my focus to her...UNTIL she fvcks up, and they almost ALWAYS do. Then I start spinning again to find another who (I know will fvck up) I'd consider being with and/or not be embarrassed to bring around my friends/family/co-workers.
 
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