"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you guys regain confidence

Ease

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Iv hit a slump this week, i need to get back into acting and thinking like a man.

Might be the stress of exams recently and a strange misshap with the gf in bed. I finished way too early, which hasnt happened for ages but now my manly swagger has badly diminished.

What do you guys do to lose the depressive mood and get confidence back?

Been doing some running which has been good. Other ideas bros.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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are you working out? if not. start.
 

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Ease said:
Iv hit a slump this week, i need to get back into acting and thinking like a man.

Might be the stress of exams recently and a strange misshap with the gf in bed. I finished way too early, which hasnt happened for ages but now my manly swagger has badly diminished.

What do you guys do to lose the depressive mood and get confidence back?

Been doing some running which has been good. Other ideas bros.
All I can say is that this is not the end of the world, so don't act like it is

confidence comes from not only believing in yourself, but being willing to get RIGHT back up when you fall down

It's easy to be confident and upbeat when everything's goin your way

The real challenge, the true confidence....believing in yourself even when bad things happen

Start thinking ahead, not behind.
 

CaptainJ

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Ease said:
Iv hit a slump this week, i need to get back into acting and thinking like a man.

Might be the stress of exams recently and a strange misshap with the gf in bed. I finished way too early, which hasnt happened for ages but now my manly swagger has badly diminished.

What do you guys do to lose the depressive mood and get confidence back?

Been doing some running which has been good. Other ideas bros.
Chin up.
No literally.

Chin up

Whenever I lose my confidence, all I have to do is assume a manly posture (Straight back, chest out, chin up, laid back, confident smile) and my confidence returns instantly.
 

backbreaker

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nothing builds self confidence like accomplishment.

set some goals and accomplish them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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