How do you guys overcome all the obstacles?

[lamath]

This is exactly what I did! My mind would make up excuses and all sorts of negative thoughts, then I'd catch myself doing it and straight up defy it. Kinda like when someone says "I bet you can't do it" and you respond "oh yeah? We'll see about that".

The mind can't be trusted. We are not our thoughts, we are not even our emotions, just as we are not our senses. We are the attention that supervises it and we can by choice exert control. This gives us a choice to accept or reject our own thoughts, like the thought that it's hard to do something.

Another thing I have discovered is how nervousness and excitement is the same base emotion, but with different thought patterns. The first is negative and the other is positive, all the difference lies in the interpretation of the feeling.

I think psychology, NLP and the "inner game" stuff is severely underrated when men talk about getting women. It has made a huge difference to me and any other who has internalized it.

Any suggestion on NLP i watch a few you tube video but not very detailed
Any book?

 

[Serenity]

Any suggestion on NLP i watch a few you tube video but not very detailed
Any book?

Honestly I haven't looked into NLP that much myself, but I know what it's about and roughly how it works. Ross Jeffries seem to know his way around the subject well, he has even adapted it specifically to seduction. He has written books about it and you might find some insightful presentations by him on YouTube, but I haven't read the books.

Most of my understanding of inner game comes from many hours researching it online and more hours of self-reflection in meditation.

 

[zekko]

You're 30% percentile. You're not a very good looking guy, just above average.

There are some who define a 7 as being in the top 30%, an 8 as being in the top 20%, a 9 as being in the top 10%, etc. That's not the way I look at it, but many do define it that way.

Research has shown that people tend to overrate their own attractiveness level. You can pretty much see that on this forum.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Stop making excuses.

If you see a woman you want to bang, it is 100% your fault if you don't approach her.

Bottom line is if you want to bang a woman, you must approach. Find a way to do it.