"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well for the second or third time in my life, i went to a nightclub/bar (i am really not into theese places, i think they are too laud and noicy).

What happened, since i have no problem approaching people when i have a reason for it, i was told by my friend to approach all of theese girls, so we could play a bit of tablesoccer with them.
After playing with a couple of girls, getting a few numbers, i desided to try to go for a Kiss, and so i did.
The girl i Kissed was on my lap for half an hour, we were talking and she was really into me.
We made out, and - for fun - when she asked my to type in my number to her phone, i named my self. "Remember to call" (Because before this, we were talking about how people only gave/took numbers to be friendly, and would never call back/answer).

Well, i took contact to her today, in the afternoon (The episode was yesterday) and she answerd and we texted a bit, then all the suddently she stopped replying (NOT IMPORTANT). My problem is, since i have never tried doing clubbing-Game for real, how do i initate a second date?


Edit; Btw. and could it be, that i was just being gamed for the kiss, and that she really would not have anything more than this? (I have herd that a lot of clubs girls, are kind'A cheap, and do stuff like that?
- Today i kind of regret that i had forgotten a Condom, i just might think that i could have gotten more than i kiss that night :b
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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give her time and space, forget about her do some other stuff **** some other girls and then touch base with her. remember your a very busy and important man
 

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Hm...

Someone Much cooler said:
give her time and space, forget about her do some other stuff **** some other girls and then touch base with her. remember your a very busy and important man
Hmm... i am kind of asking how to iniatate the second date, i would like to go on one, but should i DO IT, or should i wait for HER to do it :) ?
 

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I think she's looking for a reaction. Just wait a bit and reinitiate the convo by a statement or something. As for Day 2's.. I'm gonna go into full detail on PM.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
I think she's looking for a reaction. Just wait a bit and reinitiate the convo by a statement or something. As for Day 2's.. I'm gonna go into full detail on PM.
Thanks (-: !

And i have thought about waiting 2 more days before i reinitate a conversation. IF she DOES NOT Answer, then i ofc. get the signals hehe
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NorwegianDJ said:
As for Day 2's.. I'm gonna go into full detail on PM.
Hey!
Mind sending me a copy of that PM?

I am learning myself and I'm sure there is some good advise there.

If its private, no problem, have a great day!

Cheers!
 

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Damn, Again, 2-3 TXT and she ignorec me again..

I wont answer here text, and then insted, call her wedensday around 7pm, just to speak to her, to se what this **** is.
 

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Do NOT Call her out on ignoring your texts. Why? Because this will make you seem needy and will turn the whole deal into something serious, where you'll push her against the wall with a "You should reply to me" attitude.

Ignore that completely, just be cool, ****y, funny and in an attitude of someone she wants to be with. Some girls just aren't that much into texting, which is fine, just don't get worked up if not everyone does exactly what you want.
 

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Sandhawk. I am not sure what you are saying there?

Am i supposed NOT TO CALL HER, or SHOULD i call her?

- She did answer the text, i waited 2 hours, replied, we texted 2-3 messeges (within 10 mins), and again she ignored the 2nd or 3rd messege.

Should i ignore her next messege for a day, and then just like call her up?
Or what is YOUR advice?
 

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Oh, my advice is DO call her. Text game isn't working very well, so you have to gear up a notch to phone game. But, don't call her out on ignoring the texts. Just forget about that part.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thanks! And yess, i would not mention the texting, i need some planing though, i am not used to call "strangers" on the phone.

But what the hell, i better give it a try, so the next time - when something better appears - ill be prepared hehe :)

Thanks for the Advice :)
 
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