"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

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how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

Is there a better way of stating the lay off subject ?

Should one avoid the topic altogether?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Who cares, just tell her you got laid off. We're in the worst recession since the Great Depression. It's not like you're the first person it's happened to. People shouldn't wrap up there personal worth and identity so much in what they do between the hours of 9-5. We're much more than that.
 

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despite what most people believe, girls respond to your own reaction to your information rather than the information itself.

If you say you got laid off, as if you expect to be homeless soon, and it comes across in your answer, bad news.

Bitterness is the hugest buzzkill there is, so avoid trashing your old boss/company.

But if you say you got laid off, and you really believe that you will make some positive changes because of the situation, and convey that in your answer, good news.

It's all how you frame it.

So the question is, what are the ten best things about getting laid off? Figure these out, and you'll be ahead of the game. How positive are you that you will find something better? When you dig deep and remember all your strengths and resources, how do you see yourself five years from now?

When you see yourself with massive success in the future, how irrelevant does being laid of today become?
 

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lie.

Explain it like cousin eddie from National lampoon Vacation: Your holding out from a upper management postion.
 

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I've been laid off about 12 times. It's no big thing, but women do thing something is wrong with you if you tell them that you are between jobs.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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picard said:
how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

Is there a better way of stating the lay off subject ?

Should one avoid the topic altogether?
Unless she is your wife or your live-in longterm G/f, she is not entitled to know .
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
despite what most people believe, girls respond to your own reaction to your information rather than the information itself.

If you say you got laid off, as if you expect to be homeless soon, and it comes across in your answer, bad news.

Bitterness is the hugest buzzkill there is, so avoid trashing your old boss/company.

But if you say you got laid off, and you really believe that you will make some positive changes because of the situation, and convey that in your answer, good news.

It's all how you frame it.

So the question is, what are the ten best things about getting laid off? Figure these out, and you'll be ahead of the game. How positive are you that you will find something better? When you dig deep and remember all your strengths and resources, how do you see yourself five years from now?

When you see yourself with massive success in the future, how irrelevant does being laid of today become?


Great post. Some of the great successes were laid off, fired etc. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Maybe you will become an NBA star :) WHo knows, the world is your oyster!!!!!!!!!
 
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