Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

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how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

Is there a better way of stating the lay off subject ?

Should one avoid the topic altogether?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Who cares, just tell her you got laid off. We're in the worst recession since the Great Depression. It's not like you're the first person it's happened to. People shouldn't wrap up there personal worth and identity so much in what they do between the hours of 9-5. We're much more than that.
 

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despite what most people believe, girls respond to your own reaction to your information rather than the information itself.

If you say you got laid off, as if you expect to be homeless soon, and it comes across in your answer, bad news.

Bitterness is the hugest buzzkill there is, so avoid trashing your old boss/company.

But if you say you got laid off, and you really believe that you will make some positive changes because of the situation, and convey that in your answer, good news.

It's all how you frame it.

So the question is, what are the ten best things about getting laid off? Figure these out, and you'll be ahead of the game. How positive are you that you will find something better? When you dig deep and remember all your strengths and resources, how do you see yourself five years from now?

When you see yourself with massive success in the future, how irrelevant does being laid of today become?
 

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lie.

Explain it like cousin eddie from National lampoon Vacation: Your holding out from a upper management postion.
 

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I've been laid off about 12 times. It's no big thing, but women do thing something is wrong with you if you tell them that you are between jobs.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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picard said:
how do you guy explain to women that you just got lay off?

Is there a better way of stating the lay off subject ?

Should one avoid the topic altogether?
Unless she is your wife or your live-in longterm G/f, she is not entitled to know .
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
despite what most people believe, girls respond to your own reaction to your information rather than the information itself.

If you say you got laid off, as if you expect to be homeless soon, and it comes across in your answer, bad news.

Bitterness is the hugest buzzkill there is, so avoid trashing your old boss/company.

But if you say you got laid off, and you really believe that you will make some positive changes because of the situation, and convey that in your answer, good news.

It's all how you frame it.

So the question is, what are the ten best things about getting laid off? Figure these out, and you'll be ahead of the game. How positive are you that you will find something better? When you dig deep and remember all your strengths and resources, how do you see yourself five years from now?

When you see yourself with massive success in the future, how irrelevant does being laid of today become?


Great post. Some of the great successes were laid off, fired etc. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Maybe you will become an NBA star :) WHo knows, the world is your oyster!!!!!!!!!
 
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