"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do you get them to leave their friends and come home?

TheBaconator

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From the club/bar where you meet them? I ask because recently i've done well getting numbers and even hook ups at bars n clubs but when I call to set up a day 2 I'm consistently getting flaked.

So what are some techniques/lines that help get them to leave their group of friends that night and come home with you? I know they don't wanna look like sluts so it's not the easiest task. Anyone with any good stories or tips on this topic are welcomed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How can nobody have anything to say about this topic?

Jeez this site is starting to blow, I mean, a guy posts about stopping in the middle of sex and another about how women are only good to get him beer and they get replies yet nobody can give any advice on how to get women home the same night you meet them.
 

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Tons of different ways...

Make a smooth transition so it doesn't sound like a sleezy one night stand proposition. Talk about food and then suggest you guys get something to eat. Or talk about how you cook if you can cook (cheaper that way!) Food is a big thing after barhopping, that usually sells when it's very late at night. Or talk about a movie/TV show that you have a home, and suggest you watch it. Or talk about her favorite drink and say how you're such a good bartender. Or if she plays an instrument and you have one at home, like a guitar, tell her she should play for you. Whatever your interests are, just go with that. Usually everyone goes for comedy movies and music.

Even if she wants to go home with you, she's going to have to sell ditching her friends, which can only be done under the pretenses that it won't be a sleezy hook-up. So if she hasn't seen Borat or Chappelle's "Rick James" episode or any big pop-culture thing, that's what you do.

Obviously it's not full-proof and if these girls are flaking on you, maybe there are more things wrong with your approach than you think.
 

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Thanks Effington, the food idea is so simple yet seems so good I can't believe I didn't think of it. I could definetly see it working as getting her away from the friends and going in my direction.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheBaconator said:
From the club/bar where you meet them? I ask because recently i've done well getting numbers and even hook ups at bars n clubs but when I call to set up a day 2 I'm consistently getting flaked.

So what are some techniques/lines that help get them to leave their group of friends that night and come home with you? I know they don't wanna look like sluts so it's not the easiest task. Anyone with any good stories or tips on this topic are welcomed.
You have to isolate them before anything. If they are with their BFF, GF, Mom, Dad, sister whatever, you are not going anywhere with them. The most important thing is ISOLATING them. Once you do this, there can be no outside factors making their decision for them. Why do alot of the guys at hit on the bartenders, waitresses, beer girls? Because they are isolated! They can't go anywhere and a rejection won't hurt the ego as bad as a girl who is with 2 friends or 3 guys.

Also, the girl has to have a reason to come home with you. You can't just say "Want to come to my place tonight?" You have to be subtle, discreet, smooth. "Oh, you like Angelina Jolie, I have several movies about her...", "Oh you like cooking? I can cook up a mean eggs benedict." "Oh, you like music, I can piano like Chopin." etc, etc.

To repeat: (1) Isolate the girl (2) Have a reason for them to come back with you the same night

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Oh Susie Q, baby I love you , Susie Q
 

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DonJuan11 said:
You have to isolate them before anything. If they are with their BFF, GF, Mom, Dad, sister whatever, you are not going anywhere with them. The most important thing is ISOLATING them. Once you do this, there can be no outside factors making their decision for them. Why do alot of the guys at hit on the bartenders, waitresses, beer girls? Because they are isolated! They can't go anywhere and a rejection won't hurt the ego as bad as a girl who is with 2 friends or 3 guys.

Also, the girl has to have a reason to come home with you. You can't just say "Want to come to my place tonight?" You have to be subtle, discreet, smooth. "Oh, you like Angelina Jolie, I have several movies about her...", "Oh you like cooking? I can cook up a mean eggs benedict." "Oh, you like music, I can piano like Chopin." etc, etc.

To repeat: (1) Isolate the girl (2) Have a reason for them to come back with you the same night

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Oh Susie Q, baby I love you , Susie Q


Two words: Apocalypse Opener

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=137824&highlight=crazy+approach

I had to :p
 

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Works better if you have a wingman who can take ATLEAST one other of her friend with you two. Then it doesnt seem so akward.. You know the whole "leaving with a stranger" thing.
Then when you get them home .. Divide and Conquer

k thx

bye
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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