Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, women chase after something they WANT AND "can't have."blackbelt2k said:women chase after something they can't have... so basicly stay just out of reach. When you say you'll call, DON'T. When she asks you to call, Don't. basicly ignore her.
"I *want* her to chase me", IOW "I *want* her to want me". That's like two equal poles of a magnet, they won't attract. That's the wrong mindset. You can't make women chase you, you can only LET them. And they will as long as you aren't playing an active role in trying to make them do anything.seek&destroy said:Okay, I need to know how to make her chase me. Give me ALL the details...everything. I don't want to be the agressor, I want her to fall for me before I do anything else.
Thanks.
REAL MEN OF GENIUSCOD said:WORKING IN WOMENS CLOTHING STORE or any other place where women must approach you....bartender, Disc Jockey, bouncer,food sample giver outer guy, etc.
wayword said:Well, women chase after something they WANT AND "can't have."
Not just "can't have."
Game is not just about mindgames...but having actual substance too. That's why you must DHV in A2...before making her DHV in A3. You show her yours, and if she likes what she sees then she'll show you hers. Then IF you like what you see, you'll move on to comfort. You must BOTH qualify yourselves - fair is fair, right?
Look, you gotta bait your hook if you wanna catch fish. Simply dangling an empty hook (or the wrong bait) around isn't going to get you very far...
AFCs do too much A2 and zero A3.
Whereas nooby PUAs will often overcompensate and do zero A2 and too much A3.
But both are "sinful" - off the mark. The answer lies in the middle. Ignoring only works if you've already (actively or passively) DHV'd and given her something she wants to chase.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Obviously you have never been chased by a girl. The idea is to let her do all the work.speakeasy said:First off you need to realize that not ALL women are going to chase you. Some have lives of their own and aren't particularly needy themselves. You don't need her to chase you, all you need is to make sure she likes you as much as you like her. Personally, I don't find it very attractive to see a girl making a guy the center of her universe, makes me wonder if she has self-esteem or has anything else going on in her life.
Oh yes I have. I was this one girl's oneitis for years. Until she finally met someone and got married last year. We're still currently friends.bigappledj said:Obviously you have never been chased by a girl. The idea is to let her do all the work.
How do you get a girl to chase after you? Easy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.