You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Well, women chase after something they WANT AND "can't have."blackbelt2k said:women chase after something they can't have... so basicly stay just out of reach. When you say you'll call, DON'T. When she asks you to call, Don't. basicly ignore her.
"I *want* her to chase me", IOW "I *want* her to want me". That's like two equal poles of a magnet, they won't attract. That's the wrong mindset. You can't make women chase you, you can only LET them. And they will as long as you aren't playing an active role in trying to make them do anything.seek&destroy said:Okay, I need to know how to make her chase me. Give me ALL the details...everything. I don't want to be the agressor, I want her to fall for me before I do anything else.
Thanks.
REAL MEN OF GENIUSCOD said:WORKING IN WOMENS CLOTHING STORE or any other place where women must approach you....bartender, Disc Jockey, bouncer,food sample giver outer guy, etc.
wayword said:Well, women chase after something they WANT AND "can't have."
Not just "can't have."
Game is not just about mindgames...but having actual substance too. That's why you must DHV in A2...before making her DHV in A3. You show her yours, and if she likes what she sees then she'll show you hers. Then IF you like what you see, you'll move on to comfort. You must BOTH qualify yourselves - fair is fair, right?
Look, you gotta bait your hook if you wanna catch fish. Simply dangling an empty hook (or the wrong bait) around isn't going to get you very far...
AFCs do too much A2 and zero A3.
Whereas nooby PUAs will often overcompensate and do zero A2 and too much A3.
But both are "sinful" - off the mark. The answer lies in the middle. Ignoring only works if you've already (actively or passively) DHV'd and given her something she wants to chase.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Obviously you have never been chased by a girl. The idea is to let her do all the work.speakeasy said:First off you need to realize that not ALL women are going to chase you. Some have lives of their own and aren't particularly needy themselves. You don't need her to chase you, all you need is to make sure she likes you as much as you like her. Personally, I don't find it very attractive to see a girl making a guy the center of her universe, makes me wonder if she has self-esteem or has anything else going on in her life.
Oh yes I have. I was this one girl's oneitis for years. Until she finally met someone and got married last year. We're still currently friends.bigappledj said:Obviously you have never been chased by a girl. The idea is to let her do all the work.
How do you get a girl to chase after you? Easy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.