how do you get her interest back up?

[pete101]

I've been seeing this HB for a few dates, her interest was high on the first date but because I have no other options I have afc relapses ie texting back too soon, being nervous on second date etc.

On first date she was qualifying herself to me, now after the third I sense she's dominating the encounter. How do I get her IL back up before it's too late?

I'm tryna get more plates in the mean time but it is slim pickings (not that easy for some of us) to avoid oneitis. Also I try to keep thinking 'what would I do if I had other options?' However it's hard for me to picture that cos I've never been in that position.

What tips would you give me to get this interaction back on track? Do I cancel a date? Do I act less interested when she throws a strop on a date or complains?

 

[Dhoulmagus]

By ignoring her

 

[Iceberg]

Well, I'm assuming you haven't had sex with her yet. Your description of the situation doesn't sound like a guy who's f**king this girl.

So, sex usually shifts the power dynamic back to the guy because, at the very least, the girl doesn't want to f**k you and then have you running off and never speaking to her again.

It's not about canceling dates or waiting 45 minutes to return texts. It's about having a life where you don't need her attention, and responding to her texts isn't a priority to you. Spinning plates will help with that. Or just getting yourself actively involved in other stuff.

But sex....sex usually helps most of all.

 

[Uncharted]

First - calm down. You should go out and hit on some other girls just to get some other options.

With this girl, just take it easy. Ask her out again. If she goes then she is obviously still interested. At this point you would have had 4 dates, so you better escalate this one or it's going to be all over with.

 

[Greggie W]

Smack her around a little...i'm kidding!!

You should try not to be sooo available. Turn your phone off, don't text, don't email...don't respond so fast.

Work on yourself...find other things to do in your life. Find balance!