How do you get around not going for dinner if she suggests it in first 3 dates?

[big weezy]

How do you get around NOT going to dinner if the HB you started dating suggests dinner?

I know we're not suppose to reward them with dinner until we've slept with them but I'm sure you're not suppose to say that explicitly to them.

I have never found away of getting round this, if i suggest to go for a drink on a second or third date i'll sometimes get 'why dont we go for dinner instead?' response in text or on the phone.

I have no idea how to get out of this one.

I know if she has such high interest she wont care where she goes as long as she spends time with you but if she's been accustomed to guys always taking her for expensive dinners etc how do i side step this?

 

[whosthat]

thats a good Q

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Nothing wrong with taking a girl out that your digging. Just make sure you don't pay more then 20$ on it. You got a 20$ curve but more is just plain tricking.

If you don't want to take her to dinner then suggest to her that she cook for you at the crib.

 

[pdx1138]

That is a tough one.

I'd actually error on the side of buying her dinner anyways.

1. Don't go to an expensive place. Decent but not expensive.
2. Order the cheapest dinner you find on the menu.

A girl worth keeping will be cognizant of this and order the same or lower priced option.

A girl that orders the most expensive thing is questionable.

(I should add this to my list of good $hit tests heh heh)


When the bill arrives, wait and see if she grabs her debit card to split it with you.
Most women expect you to pay if YOU asked them to dinner, but if they did
most will split it.

Arrange to go to your place afterwards....you may very well get the lay then.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Lol just take her to dinner. Show her you're a quality guy.

 

[IamJosan]

Try to telling her something like , 'I can't take you to dinner until you show me how to ____________' or something of that sort. Something playful.

 

[floydb25]

What's wrong with dinner? Food tastes good. Don't gotta do everything for them, ya know. Do things for you, too. You got a date, so you won't be going alone. Enjoy it. Just make sure its not too fancy, or that she's not looking for a free meal.

Dont see how this is a big deal. Stop thinking in terms of dating, and just have fun. Eat. Talk. Enjoy yourself.

 

[marmel75]

How do you get around NOT going to dinner if the HB you started dating suggests dinner?

I know we're not suppose to reward them with dinner until we've slept with them but I'm sure you're not suppose to say that explicitly to them.

I have never found away of getting round this, if i suggest to go for a drink on a second or third date i'll sometimes get 'why dont we go for dinner instead?' response in text or on the phone.

I have no idea how to get out of this one.

I know if she has such high interest she wont care where she goes as long as she spends time with you but if she's been accustomed to guys always taking her for expensive dinners etc how do i side step this?

Why don't you counter by telling her to cook you dinner instead?